i'm at a lose here with my boyfriend now. when you get in a relationship with someone, when does physical attraction start to matter less? do all guys think it will always matter? do you just want the girl you first started dating physically? my boyfriend says that it still matters for me to look like I did back when he first met me but that was 4 years and a pregnancy ago. I find that to be crazy because in 20 years, even guys go through so many physical changes so why would it matter? people get old and wrinkely and bald or grey but my boyfriend says that every guy is like this. I always thought that physical attraction is what brings people together but not stay together. can I get a guys perspective on this PLEASE! I don't want to think badly of every guy on the planet but if it's true then I don't ever want to be with another guy. I'm only human and I don't have the money for plastic surgery so I'll be changing in the years to come and I have enough anxiety taking care of a baby. please, all answers would be great.
Physical attraction will always matter, but personality starts to become more important further down the road. Initially, I really think we are all drawn to our based physically, and once the infatuation phase is over is when looks are not as important as personality.
If you are married, try not to let yourself go. That goes for both sexes. It's better for your health if you both are of average weight. For most people, attraction becomes less important the more years a couple has been together. They develop a deep, mutual respect for each other. However, if your husband is fairly good looking, then it's a bit harder to say.
Guys fall in love with their eyes. They can grow affection for you, but their primary emotional response is based on looks. I think most guys will appreciate if you are putting in a good effort. Only an idiot would expect someone to get plastic surgery and all that. But staying fit, making an effort to dress nice and do your hair nice = probably one of the top 5 things for a guy to feel love.