I look in the mirror, and I see ugliness. I actually avoid looking in mirrors now. I used to find myself pretty, but my mom started to put me down all the time, and tell me I'm ugly, and that I'm slut, Etc. And after a while, I started to believe it. So, my question is, Do you find yourself ugly? If you used to find yourself ugly, but now you don't, how did you change your point of view on yourself? Thanks(: This could really help me(:
Thanks for everything guys(: So, from reading all these answers, I found out that confidence makes a person prettier. And being "ugly" doesn't mean you have a hideous face, it can also mean that you just a have a bad personality that is making you ugly. So, if someone is reading this, and finds themselves ugly like I do, just be nice and kind to people, and be confident! We can get through it! To find outer beauty, we must fist find our inner beauty(:
I used to think I was ugly, but now I don't. I had such deep, self-hate. It got to a point where I became my biggest bully. I was telling myself that I was ugly and didn't deserve certain types of moments, experiences, and guys.
I got tired of feeling so terrible all of the time. I wanted to know what my life could feel like. Realizing that my self-hate was stopping me from being happy, it had to go. So I began healing my broken self esteem. I accepted the fact that being ugly is something so much deeper than your face, just as well as being beautiful. Ugliness is not about not looking like a supermodel and not having anyone tell you how pretty you are. Being ugly is causing pain and destruction among others. Being ugly is being the type of person who stops progress in this world. I was NOT ugly. No matter how I looked, I was not that kind of person and I embraced that. In that moment, I felt all of my self doubt and pain lifting right up off me, like fog rising above the water. Ever since then, I started focusing on achieving true beauty which starts in the mind and the soul then spreads to the surface. I became a beautiful person on the inside, then I started taking better care of my appearance. I started trying products that were best for my hair, started getting my eyebrows done, started dressing fashionably and wearing a little make-up. But all of that was like icing on the cake because of the immense beauty I had built inside :)
Yes I have, sometimes I look in the mirror and am very pleased with what I see, but other times I look and focus on my imperfections.
I've realized that you have to be comfortable in your own skin and be proud of who you are. When you can do this, you tend to walk a little taller with more confidence, which in turn adds to your attractiveness.
When I was younger, I probably had the worst self-esteem ever. I thought I was fat and ugly. You know what's ugly? The pain you cause on yourself. and then people take start feeding off this and contribute to your low self esteem. Speaking from experience, it's not worth it to destroy yourself like this and its definitely not worth it to deal with those people.
Now I'm definitely not skinny and I don't think I'm "pretty" but I feel attractive and I'm confident and feel good about myself. Confidence changes everything and it brings out the best in you and other people. In gr.12 I had some sort of revelation... my marks were great, I changed my hair color, I received compliments about my looks and other things and I started hanging around with different people. I bought new clothes and wore outfits I liked. Look in that mirror and tell yourself you're beautiful. When you feel good, it really shows on the outside in everything you do and its an extremely attractive quality. I've learned the hard way that the people who put you down are not worth it. They're pathetic and do not let them get to you. You're better than that. :) Surround yourself with good things and good people and be positive in life. It's amazing how things turn around by themselves :)
Of course I used to find myself ugly.. Most of us go through some sort of faze where we are constantly looking around to see how we stack up next to others.. That is exactly the problem... STOP looking around. Dress YOURSELF in an outfit YOU like that flatters YOUR positive attributes. DO or DON'T do your make-up in a way that pleases YOU. Style YOUR hair how YOU think it looks best... Look in the mirror at the person reflected and smile at it compliment yourself on how put together and cute you are and move ON! Your mother does NOT get the privilege of determining how you feel about yourself. People that WANT to make you feel bad are pathetic.. Don't let them have their way..
Yeah some days... like today for instance. But I just tell myself to stop being such a downer and that I'll get over it, and I focus on positive things like what I'll be doing when the weekend comes around or dinner (lol) or something.(:
I still find myself ugly but it makes me feel better when random people from my school and my friends compliment my best feature which is my eyes
When I hear a compliment my self esteem climbs just a little bit higher and it also helps to keep repeating that song "You are beautiful" in your head the one that goes " you are beautiful in every single way words can't bring you down, so don't you bring me down today"it sure helped me
My advice to you is find something you like abt yourself (for me its my eyes) and work from there soon enough you'll find your self beautiful again... and try the song
I really hope this helps
I have but I have also admired myself because there are days such as bad hair day and haven't-gotten-any-sleep day. I am having both right now though they are fixable. Don't avoid mirrors they aren't mean and they won't bite. Also don't let MOM tell you anything - for all you know she is the ugly slut. So don't let her bring you down.
I avoid mirrors at times. And pix...I get compliments but I don't believe them because no guys ever approach me & I'm afraid to because if they don't even look at me...then I'll probably get rejected.
When I was younger. I just started to develop confidence after I felt comfortable being my own person and all that. I don't know how but it just kind of happened. I started to get more attention from guys, I mean overall I am attractive, I was just insecure.
I feel good when I walk around in underwear, for some reason being naked ups my confidence.