I noticed that average looking girls get a lot of male attention or have had a lot of boyfriends but really beautiful girls don't seem to have too many guys around them or get many guys.
No offense I hate to sound silly but I would consider myself a very attractive girl and guys never talk to me, or rarely I should say. Honestly, I wish a guy would have the courage to just talk to me, not ask me out or hit on me but say something. I wouldn't reject a guy for just talking me I would talk to them, I would carry on a conversation with them. I wish more guys would have the courage to say something and I can understand the concern of rejection
And what do you do when a beautiful girl smiles at you or talks to you? do you still avoid her or not make an effort?
It's kind of like a vicious cycle isn't it? Beautiful girls are used to getting approached all the time, and so become used to it and assume that any guys that like them will surely approach them. Inevitably, the only guys that have the guts to approach them are the "beefcake a**holes" that esper88 described (thank you), and so the pool of guys the beautiful girls have to choose from are limited. Eventually the beautiful girls wind up with the beefcake a**holes (having no other options/are not socialized to make the first move themselves), all other guys see all the beautiful girls with said a**holes, and it perpetuates the stereotype that the beautiful girls only want that "type" of guy. So, all regular guys figure that they never had a chance and never try, and it goes on and on.
All it boils down to is insecurity: if beautiful girls weren't so insecure to approach the regular-type guys (because those guys seem to not like them), and if regular guys weren't so insecure to approach the beautiful girls. You can't blame one party or the other.
Its not quite that. A lot of the time it's because guys have just given up.
It's an odd phenominon I've noticed recently; the very attractive girls who have had guys hitting on them and flirting with them for a vast majority of their life have become so accustomed to it that they see it as normal social interaction, not courtship. Understandably, this leads I the frustration of many guys, who as a result go for the less 'perfect' individuals.
Blaxican619, you're not alone. Beautiful women intimidate most guys. In fact, plenty of guys get intimidated by average-looking women. But when you find yourself in the presence of a genetic celebrity of the female gender, the sense of longing and confusion can be overwhelming.
If you come across a girl, I mean The perfect 10. The A plus. The woman you'd sell your soul for, no questions asked. Her natural habitat: urban centers of high finance, fashion, politics, and the entertainment industry. A HEAVY PRICE TO PAY don't you think ?
Of course each person is an individual, but when dating you have to play the odds because you're in contact with quite a few people.
Generally speaking women who consider themselves attractive ( notice I didn't say they were attractive ) are more problems than they are worth. The sheer sense of entitlement. The crap you have to put up with, etc. I've got better things to do with my time.
Now, if I happen to find a pretty woman who doesn't have those liabilities, then great. Every women I've ever known has said they aren't like that, but more often than not if the woman thinks she's attractive, she has those qualities.
Yeah, there is a certain sense of "why even bother" when it comes to the really pretty girls. We just kind of assume she's going for the beefcake a**hole scene. If she's too full of herself and can lord over a guy with her good looks, it doesn't usually mean good times for the guy. Brunettes are better anyway.
Yeah I am intimidated. I'm even intimidated by average looking girls. With the amount of guys they have to choose from why would I even bother making myself noticed. I think I will go for someone in my league to save some time and dignity. I want to approach this girl in my university library but she is waaaaaay out of my league so I might as well save myself the hassle.