The question is really somewhat rhetorical I suppose...
First of all, let me make it clear that I of course understand that the first impression is important. If someone is extremely handsome he does appear differently than a utterly hideous person. And at first it's impossible to tell what someone's character is like. Fair enough.
But I think it goes way beyond the first impression stuff or anything like it. Here are just a few examples:
Me: "I have a new girlfriend, we met at uni."
Other person: "Is she hot/ what does she look like/how tall is she"
Girls talking about a random guy: "Ohhh he is so handsome!"
Does it matter if he's cool/interesting/intelligent/funny etc.? Not at all.
It seems to me like people begin relationships almost completely based on looks. This just baffles me. I fully understand that you have to be attracted to someone and stuff. But why does someone's character play such a small role when it comes to relationships and such? Why not at least try to find out if two people share the same interests?
And no, I am not hideous or anything. I have no problem with my looks and several girls have called me handsome. What I do have a problem with is however how freaking superficial everything is.
Just for the record, I first talked to my later girlfriend because she looked interesting. But I only started dating her after talking to her for ours and finding out that she is simply an amazing person.
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It's just social conversation...Character is everything but it's easier to say so and so is cute in conversation than go in depth on their personality... personality is more..personal. I don't want my friends to know about the heart and soul of my S/O until I am ready to tell them. Plus it would sound weird to go on about "his heart is so big" etc lol. We usually may add he's nice/funny etc. but looks or job or whatever superficial just fits into convo better but its not what we look for because quite frankly I don't care if my friends find my boyfriend attractive or not0