i remember like it was yesterday back in 1997 (I was 10 years old). it was a really hot day and everybody when to the beach that day. in the afternoon my mom when to her bbf home to visit. my mom's bbf's daughter and niece had just came back from the beach and they were tired relaxing in their rooms while still having their bathing suit on, then the phone rings and my mom's bbf tell her daughter to answer. the daughter walks by the kitchen with her bathing suit on (which was a thong), and I checked her out, my mom's bbf cough me staring and puts me in the spot (in a positive way) and says "oohh look! he so cute! he is checking her out!". I mean wouldn't a mother be upset if anybody was checking her daughter out? or was it because I was too young and not capable of anything? and I've also noticed that in situations similar to these one the mother will always hold daughter guilty by telling them "why are you dressing like a whore in front of everybody" instead of taking actions on the guys who check them out
ooohh! and I forgot to add that, my mom's bbf's daughters and niece where in their late teens at this time (maybe 17-20)
hey and that last line I said, my mom's bbf never told that to her daughter. I was just saying that most mothers tell their daughters those types of things when situations like this happen rather then picking side with their daughters...
it reminds me of one of 2 Live Crew's old song that in one verse they go "I WONT TELL YOUR MOMMA IF YOU DONT TELL YOUR DAD"
It stems from the double standard that women are supposed to be pure and that men can't control themselves sexually. This idea is pretty deeply ingrained into our society. The focus is almost always on women---to dress modestly, to not tease or tempt men, to not be available sexually.
i didn't grow p with my mom. I think women should dress however they want, so what if people look. if they touch well that's illegal. you don't blame a person when someone breaks into their home. no one has an excuse to violate someones body. so putting the blame on the woman is against the actual law. not seudo- moral interpretations of the law. illegal.
I'm not sure why but that's probably a mom who doesn't know how to talk to their daughter
its because you can't control a guy looking but you can control how you dress which in turn can make yourself slightly more conservative so that guys won't be staring at just your body. but I do agree it is a double standard. and it kind of makes me sick that the mom encouraged you looking at her or well didn't discourage you from it. but not much you can do about how that mom views her daughter.
Because women know exactly what the other girl is doing, dressing skimpily to attract attention. Why do you think women are so catty toward each other?
Because they know when another girl does something there is ALWAYS a reason. Women are very calculating. Their entire network is a web of give and take, and positioning for themselves. In the case you mention, the woman is not only calling the girl out about the skimpy outfit, she calls her out also because it takes away from her own attraction and she can't stand it. Women are extremely competitive and jealous creatures. Unlike guys, most of that competition is done very covertly, but is ruthless to the extreme. Women almost never forget nor forgive someone interferring with their plans, possessions or sense of self.