The husband and I are going through something weird.
Our sex life is nonexistant, well sometimes we have it, but when we do, he doesn't try to get me in the mood, or even excitted about it.. He's more like "ok its hard what now" type of attitude...basically he only wants to get off and doesn't care about me, or even being passionate...
Date nights happen if they're planned by me. I have to get the sitter, and plan the whole thing.
Cleaning happens if its done by me. And that's 100% right, because I don't work, (stay at home momma) but sometimes I need a little help, whether he does some cleaning or picks up after himself. After dinner,he just leaves his plate and cup where we eat. Even though I cooked he doesn't clear his plate, do the dishes, or help put the food away... that's not a big big deal but annoying...
We never just talk anymore. We usually have time alone after the kids go to bed, but insted of hanging out with me, talking, or cuddling, he falls asleep..
Granit he may be exhausted, but back in the day he would make giant effort to stay up, help me around the house, take time in the bedroom (if you know what I'm saying) tired or not. Drunk or not..
The weirdest part of all, we went o a no sex thing for a while, and when we were going to, I got all excitted thinking it was going to be amazing (bc we hadn't done it for so long) and he was lame, he didn't kiss me anywhere, he didn't touch me, he didn't say sweet or kinky/sexy things, he just got hard put it in and got off.. To me, personally, I feel that's a sign...
So to make things better (talking doesn't work, I've already tried) should I get a place to stay? Just so he can see and think and feel how much he misses me and so he wouldn't take me for granted?
I really don't know what to do. I have tried everything... I need advice, strong real advice from what you would do, to how you would feel in my shoes and his shoes if I left you..
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I'm young this I know but I have been through a few divorces with my parents. Personally I don't believe in "Staying together for the kids". My mother did. I was younger when it started. In all seriousness I was young but I saw the changes. He didn't love her anymore. There relationship was dead. They always fought and even though they tried to hide it from me I knew. I personally believe you should get a divorce! You should be happy! YOur children if they don't understand now they will latter. Depending on there age depends on how they will react. You shouldn't keep them out of the loop. There is things children shouldn't know. Let them know the basics. They might get mad if there younger, but just wait it out and have a serious talk with them. If there older then explain as much as you feel necessary and hope they understand. Your not happy. It will affect your life. There is someone out there that will make you happy. You just have to put yourself in a position to find him. Once a relationship is dead there is no use in it. Its just a burden. You not being happy and living an unhappy life with affect all the ones you love. Do what makes you happy!0