I wanted to answer to this comment from the author: "Then why does it seem like all girls go for the good looking guys who are rude, and then they just leave nice guys with a good personality as not an option."
I thinks people are naturally drawn to everything attractive, be it a person or a thing. Physical beauty is a miracle and people are so fascinated by it, they often overlook it's more subtle, inner version. Some are not mature enough to realize which kind is more of value, but why worry about those people? I personally wouldn't want to be with them anyway.
Personality is huge! I won't pretend looks aren't important, because they are. There needs to be some physical attraction, because if a guy has an amazing personality but there isn't a physical attraction, then that can place them in the "friends" category. Sometimes, I will see a guy I find really attractive but come to learn that he did not have a personality to match, and he will then become completely unattractive in my eyes. So once again, personailty is huge! Then again, I've also began with no physical attraction to a guy and then I come to learn they have an amazing personality and then I begin finding things that I really do find physically attractive about them just because their personality seems to make it stand out.
I know it seems cliche to say personality but I know from experience that super attractive guys with no personality are a novelty and aren't even eligible for serious relationship status. On the other hand, guys with great personalities that aren't initially physically wow-ing you really tend to grow on you and are much higher in consideration for a real relationship. I've fallen hard for guys, that I initially placed in the friend zone, because they just had amazing personalities and we just clicked.
Looks fade with age but personalities always shine. It often takes time and maturity to see this though.
And on the flip side, I've known guys who complain that girls never like them for their personalities and because they're "nice guys" when they won't give a second glance to GIRLS who aren't drop dead gorgeous but have great personalities. Two way street folks.
Personality is a must, but there has to be a physical attraction on some level. And that doesn't mean that the guy has to be drop dead gorgeous. A guy with a great personality can make him physically attractive. But to me, I tend to stay away from guys that are super hot, but have crappy personalities. But you will find girls that are super shallow and only go for looks.
Well basically its 50/50. Because a girl is going to go up to you if your completely ugly..no offense, its just human nature. But you have more of a chance if you have better looks. The Personality plays a BIG role though, because I've known alotta hot guys and dumped them because they got on my nerves! So at first looks will matter, but after that, the personality will come in big time. So you should have both
I think personality is WAY WAY WAY more important. I throw looks out the window now because most guys that are hot are to into themselves, talk to much, jerks or gay. Well some of them are...there can be really cute guys with great personalities but they are hard to find. But I have dated a few guys who were average or just didn't look so great with the best personalities. I think if they have the personality then there looks won't matter or your just to shallow.
It's the confidence I like. There are some physical traits that catch my eye, but if it's all looks & no brains, if he's conceded, or complete ass, or dull, it's not going to work for me. Looks can only get you so far, then it's the personality that has to shine through.
for me, personality is more important than looks..looks can fade away as time goes by but personality is different..you can always feel at ease every time you're with a person who has a good personality...
Personality is the most important factor, however you do have to be, to some degree, physically attracted to the guy as well. In most cases, that's how potential lovers get the motivation to approach one another for the first time.
some people would say personality all the way but deep down I personally think looks matter to a point. I know it sounds superficial but it what I believe. if I can't look at him I probally wouldn't date him to be honest
Personality can make a guy hot. But I prefer a guy that I'm physically and emotionally attracted to. :)
Beauty is what you have when your looks fade. I think I'm okay looking, some women find me attractive and others don't (psycosis is more common than you think). But don't base your values on something as contigent and relative as apperance.
both 50 percent but its normally looks which will bring people together at first but personality that keeps them talking to you and wanting to know you