I'm a young woman (24 years old)
and I have a problem with my legs
that's really unattractive
and uncommon for my age.
OK, I have varicose veins.
(It's thanks to genetics... lucky me!)
I've already had 2 surgical operations,
the situation has improved
but some veins are still visible
and they become VERY obvious during summer.
I'm deeply ashamed of this.
I go to the beach, but I always go on my own.
I never wear short or mini-skirts, unless with tights.
I've never been in a relationship... or in an intimate situation.
And that's in part because of this physical dysfunction.
I dread the idea of getting naked in front of a potential boyfriend / date
and the thought of him discovering my "secret" frightens me.
What's really hilarious though (I'm being sarcastic)
is that I'm genuinely quite an attractive person,
as in: it's fair to say I'm slightly above average looking.
Yet when people compliment my looks
or if a guy looks at me "in lust"
I just think:
"You say this because I have my clothes on
but if you saw me naked you'd realize what a monster I am
and you'd run away screaming and disgusted by me"
My question is:
If you were to realize that the girl you're dating / seeing has this problem, would you be grossed out and leave or would you stay with her?
I realize that it's not my fault,
but how on earth do I get my self-esteem to improve and start living a normal life?
Please be honest, and feel free to be brutal, if you have to.
Most Helpful Girl
If you feel that uncomfortable about it, then tell the guy about it off the bat.
I remember a while ago I had someone tell me about a birth mark they had on their body, before we actually got intimate.
When I did see it, I knew what to expect and it wasn't has bad has they made it out ot be.
Love yourself. Our imperfections are what makes us us.
I'm sure your future guy will probably have a thing or two that he doesn't like about his body either. You and your future partner will probably share more common ground than you think.
If a doesn't want to date you because of your varicose veins then he is obviously very shallow, immature, and not worth your time (trust me, he will be too busy paying attention to other things during intimacy) to even focus on that specific area.