My fiancee got upset when I mentioned I wanted to shave my head for the summer. It's not the first time I do it. But It's the first time I do it since we've been together. She's known me to do it. She's a hair stylist and does crazy things to her hair like dye it purple. I think since I don't tell her hoe to dress, style her hair she should not be entitled to how I want to wear my hair. What's your take
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There is a difference between being upset and telling someone what to do.
Telling anyone who is an adult what to do is a slippery slope. Doing that to your partner is even worse. It's a great way to build resentment and fuel arguments.
However, being upset over something your partner does is fine. This isn't Disneyland. We don't have to like everything about our partner or agree with all their views and actions. It's okay to get upset. It's okay for you, as well, to be upset by her reaction. What isn't okay is trying to tell her she has no reason to be upset. She doesn't like it. Accept that.
So, I don't agree with advice that tells you to do what works for you. Relationships are about give and take and considering another person's feelings. So, first, consider how really important it is for you to shave your head. Don't do it just to get back at her. Second, let her know you accept that she does not like the idea. Finally, if you really want to shave your head, well then do so, but don't expect you will talk her out of the way she feels. Good luck!3