Ok, so here's the deal. I'm a 23yr old virgin and I used to be chubby (not insanely obese) but for the past two years I've lost weight and now I'm thin (128 pounds @ 5'7) . Anyway, the thing is that I'm very self conscious about the stretch-marks on my arms (they aren't visible unless I lift them) and on my hips. I DON'T have loose skin or anything like that. I wasn't at such an extreme level of fatness to end up with loose skin. So I'm okay in that department.
The deal is that I know that one day I'll get intimate with my boyfriend who didn't know me back in my fat days and who I never told I used to be chubby because that's my past and I get enough comments from family and friends about my weight loss to deal with it in a relationship. I'm really embarrassed about the stretch-marks and I don't want him to get grossed out and dump me for them,
ESPECIALLY if I lose my virginity to him. I mean, he's 27 years old so obviously I can't expect him to hold out forever on any kind of sexual contact, y'know? When I'm dressed it's pretty easy to conceal them but without clothes? So scary. Question is...what do you guys think about this? Would it totally turn you off?
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Hey, first of all I would like to say I'm surprised you're still a virgin at 23! No offense! I respect that!! I'm a 23 years old as well, and I myself am one... I want to try to keep it for that special someone... I just didn't think there were any girls out there anymore like yourself... All the girls I know of lost it as young as 14...
But WOW, congrats on your weight loss!! And no, personally I wouldn't mind about the stretch marks... I'm a guy myself, as long as your personality is there and you're an understanding girl, that would be all that matters to me.
Anyways, really proud of you and hopefully your bf will see it the same way as I do. You deserve it! And you really are that "special someone" that every nice guy is searching for!0