Without comparing yourself to anyone else; how do you know you are not ugly? Is there any real way to tell? Do you rate your looks based on what others tell you or do you have enough self-esteem to say you are not ugly; no matter what anyone says. I'm just asking a question that came to mind. I am neither pointing out anyone's flaws and/or self image problems.
I believe I am not ugly, because I like the look of my own face; both excepting my good and bad points. I have been told by guys and girls that I am beautiful/ sexy/ cute you name it, but it would mean nothing if I thought of myself as being ugly.
i have been told I'm ugly by a few boys in high school, and by a boy last year.
But I have been told I'm beautiful by many more men and women, and men I've dated etc. I've always been insecure, but I find beautiful and ugly things about my appearance. I've realized that the people who called me ugly were immature and trying to hurt me and it worked, the people that told me I'm attractive I believe, and I suppose its because I do like the way I look, I am grateful for my body and face and there is no point wishing I looked like jessica alba, I know I'm not the most beautiful girl in the world and will never be, but yes, I am beautiful.
Physical attraction in peoples faces stems from symmetry. If your face is very symmetric, it is not ugly. Also, the absence of defects, like large moles, acne, scars, things like that, would also lower the chance of being ugly.
Full lips are better looking than thin lips. Big eyes are better looking than small eyes. A pronounced jawline is attractive in men, cheek bones are attractive in women.
It has nothing to do with self esteem, it has to do with how well you can identify traits on your own self.
But lastly, it doesn't matter, because confidence is the most attractive trait of them all.
I get "attention" from the female gender often enough (across most age groups) when I'm out and about...to not think I'm ugly.
I take care of my body. I minimize my junk/processed food the best I can (I live at home so I don't buy my own food), I drink plenty of water, I eat my fruits and veggies, I consume my green tea everyday, I have a personal clothing style that I maintain...and most importantly I keep my hygeine top-notch.
*I* think that I look good, and that confidence is truly contagious in others. :)
I don't like my looks at all and always have had problems with my appearance and confident issues. I even developed depression over it a while back and went to a psychologist. It helped a little but I still don't like what I see. I get compliments and my boyfriend gives me compliments all the time and he's a very attractive looking guy but that doesn't make me feel any better. I do what I can with my appearance and just hope that it's good enough for other people. I don't think there's any specific way of knowing whether you are ugly or not cause someone out there will find you attractive no matter what. Maybe not as many people will give you compliments if you are average but bottom line I don't think anyone can truly say they are ugly as everyone has flaws and some manage to hide them better than others. I don't rate my own looks on anything. I just look in the mirror and decide I'm not beautiful but I have a really hard time looking at myself anyway and my psychologist told me I have body dysmorphic disorder and that's why my perception of myself is distorted. It's a pretty sensitive topic for me actually but either way I don't think there's ever a way to really know the truth about your looks.
honestly I don't think you can absolutely not compare your looks to others. our societys definition of beauty is implanted into our consciousness from day one. if you had a different view of beauty adopted, you may not have the same reaction to your face. you are subconsciously comparing yourself to an image or a series of images of facial parts that you have been taught is beautiful, or some standard. or those images or parts that are associated with life experiences, with types of people that you have been taught are good or bad people, with types of people with which you have had good or bad experiences, etc. all this affects whether or not you respond positively or negatively to your face.
thats most of it. however, I do believe some people have pleasant faces or features that will attract attention for better or for worse.
anyway I believe I am pretty for the same reason, I like the look of my face. I like my facial features, they look very pretty and unique to me. although I could benefit from losing some damn weight so my face could be slimmer. :/
ive never been called sexy, well not often. but I do get cute, pretty, and beautiful, people stare at me and compliment me, etc. its the funniest thing when you can tell a child thinks you're pretty. its like you're witnessing the development of their perception of beauty or you're seeing how they have already been affected by social implications or you wonder if they are just having a natural reaction to you. I don't know I think about those things. I'm weird lol
Here's the thing. I get compliments from guys once in a while online. So one could maybe say that I'm attractive enough.
Here's the other thing. I get no attention or compliments from guys ever in "real life". So one could maybe say that I'm not attractive enough.
While I really, truly appreciate every nice thing said about me by people online, and those things do honestly make me feel good, I, like everyone else, look different in pictures than I do in person. So as I said, although I appreciate every compliment, it's the real life, in person compliments that I REALLY care about, and I get zilch. Ever. That is something that definitely holds me back. Don't care if that sounds kind of shallow. Everyone knows it helps to have some outside encouragment. I'm not saying that I have no confidence. I'm just saying that there's only so much encouragment and appreciation I can give myself.
If any of that made sense...
Best I can do is not let myself feel down about the way I look. I tell myself that I like my appearance, but I probably don't feel that way 100% deep down. So I just have to try not to focus on it too much, otherwise I would be in big trouble. I like my personality, so I guess I can only hope I can wow people with that, haha
A) My own confidence plays a major role in how I view myself - If you are truly okay with your looks you never have to compare it to anothers. You accept your flaws as a part of you and move on from them.
Of course how the opposite gender reacts to you can either boost your confidence or take it down a few notches. But when you truly feel confident you pay very little attention to what others say. Your opinion is the loudest and most meaningful of all.
I know I'm not ugly because I am okay with me, and I love looking in the mirror.