so I'm a little nervous about this but I just want to be more social and attractive to women but I feel like there are some changes I want to make so ladies if you would take a look at my pics and tell me what you think I could do to improve my appearance I would appreciate it.
Im 5'8 so I'm mot that tall for a guy I weigh about 190 pounds I'm in decent shape but still have a bit of a flabby stomach so I could stand to lose some weight. I wear bifocals Because I was born with cataracts but I would like to get contacts but is there a better way to wear bifocals so they don't look as thick or bulky?
I usually keep a pretty short fade haircut and clean shave or a small shadow. any advice would be appreciated. thanks
You look fine. You shouldn't be so self-conscious, but it's okay, because most of us have been there.
Keeping clean shaven is good.
If you went to lose some of the midriff, do some crunches and core work, but exercise alone won't do everything, like honeyItsme said. If you do exercise and don't eat enough, you body will actually feed on muscle tissue for fuel. You don't want to do that. Eat enough, but eat healthy. Maybe you already do. Get plenty of protein. Don't go for protein shakes all day. Protein shakes as a substitution for food will make the muscles look "soft". If you can stick to a weight-lifting regimen with cardio and ab work on your non-lifting days for 1.5 months, you should start to see improvements. 1.5 months is scientifically the amount of time it takes to make or break a habit. It doesn't mean you make it or break it necessarily, but after that period of time you develop a rhythm and it's not as difficult to stick to it. Good luck but I don't think you need to worry =)
You're fine. Just work on toning up. The glasses you can change easily. Find a good eye doctor to go to and they'll have plenty of different lenses to choose from. The people working there are usually pretty helpful at helping you find the best ones to fit your face. Short hair is fine. Maybe try different shaving styles on your face. I suggest you clean up a little more and get rid of some of your facial hair.
Bifocals? Call them glasses please :-) There are so much things you could do to enhance your appearance. There are stylish glasses out there that will give you that sexy nerd boy look. A little bit of lower body ab work out daily should give you that tight core. It doesn't mean that you have to go crazy and work out until you have a cardiac arrest, its going to take time. 5'8 isn't bad, because you won't find a girl past 5'7 often. I think the biggest thing you'll need to work on is confidence. Its something that is a must. Girls adore guys with confidence, not cockiness of course, but a little bit of courage can take you a long way.
aight, aight.. from looking at your pics I can tell you a few things :) 1st step.. eyes! either get some contacts or get a nice, slick pair of glasses.. 2nd.. body! go to the gym, do some exercises or run etc to loose some weight.. 3rd.. hair! let your hair grow out, let it get some length to it :) hope I helped :) best of luck man :)
Get contacts. You can have them in pretty much 24/7 so you won't have to worry about wearing thick glasses in public.
Grow your hair out a bit. Try different things ( I think you'd look better with longer hair-- about 1.5-2 inches on top and half an inch on the sides faded ). Make your facial hair longer or shave it.. It looks trimmed, but it's not a full layer of hair, so I'm thinking you just trimmed it too short.
Lower your body fat % via a strong combination of weightlifting and long distance running (or whatever reasonable combo of resistance training and cardio you prefer).
As for your approach.. just pretend your a hot shot in your head.. then sooner or later you start to believe it and project it without even thinking about it.
Great smile. Working out will broaden your shoulders - which will make the midsection look thinner.
To actually lose the fat, while keeping the muscle, 80% of that is a change to your diet - exercise alone will not get you anywhere near. More protein and a lot fewer carbs and processed fats. Lots of water. Much smaller portions, and more frequent meals, with healthy snacks.
Being social is another thing but in terms of looks, you said you're in decent shape so judging from the pics, I think you have a decent muscular frame (like most big white guys lol) so just lose some body flub and gut and you'll be fine. Focus on cardio, fat loss and healthy food/nutrition because you can lift weights and do a billion crunches but it won't help if the abs/muscles are lying underneath that layer of body fat. After you achieve your body fat/weight loss goal. The biggest step is maintaining it or else you'll easily gain it all back.
Lose the college frat clothes for more style and classy stuff and replace those glasses with something more stylish, try rectangular-ish frames and see how they look! You'll be GQ'ing in no time! It'll also help you self-confidence if you look and feel sharper.
Your glasses appear to be a bit tacky but you are groomed well. Try going for "Ray Banesque" style frames. If you slimmed down I think that would transform your image from soft to stud. Cut down on the foid you eat and go for a jog every day.