23 and never had a girlfriend before, never dated or been in a relationship, obviously still a virgin, many people will say it's an attitude-thing, I have the wrong attitude, personality or little or no confidence, well I've approached many girls and have asked them out before, but they have all rejected me. So why should I believe my looks are playing a very little part in this? I thought looks is what attracts the people in the first place, and the personality keeps them together?
I obviously talk to them and get to know them at first, but for me the hardest part is how long specifically should I get to know a girl, talk to her before asking her out? I don't want to do it too soon and I don't want to do it too late
People say all the time that I should never settle, but doesn't lowering your standards mean you are settling? so I'm confused about this, also, why was I not born knowing how to approach and talk to girls correctly, confidently meanwhile for most other guys it is common sense for them, seriously, why and how do most guys become extremely comfortable and confident knowing how to approach and talk to girls from an early age while others struggle? what causes guys to be different like that?
seriously, why is it that so many 15 and 16 year old guys naturally, instinctively know how to approach and talk to girls, it's like they always had "Game" in them
I def go for personality more than anything. when a guy is confident and funny it makes me so much attracted to him. I think if you had a better attitude you would be able to get a girlfriend and see that looks only matter so much
maybe you're standards are too high and you're asking out the wrong people? you're probably not that unattractive, you just need to ask out the right person. confidence is a big key and if you ignore that than that doesn't help you're case.
but honestly, if you think you're unattractive than fix it, don't whine about it. and also, I believe for every person, they attract a person of equal likeliness. in fact, it's scientifically proven that uglier people mate with uglier and prettier mate with prettier. not to be harsh, but its true.
There's a difference between unrealistic standards and lowering your standards.
I hope you didn't just go up to them and ask them out cause that would be super awkward. If you did that then that could easily be the reason. You've gotta actually talk to them first, get to know them a bit, establish the fact that you're an interesting person to talk to, and then ask for their number or something.
Also, like the anon girl said, if you just went for the hot ones that could be it. Don't shoot too high. It's okay sometimes but you've gotta go for not just the hot ones but the ones who aren't so hot either.