After numerous rejections (20+) I figured out why I have never had a girlfriends or why I can't go on dates with girls, it's all about looks. No wonder all my friends never have to initiate every single contact when talking. No wonder their texts/calls get insta replied/or answered. No wonder they are never shot down immediately, one of my friends has zero confidence, is poor, has no personality what so ever, treats girls like sh**, but is swimming in more pu^^^^ than he can imagine. unbelievable.
Still don't believe me:
i made a fake profile of a handsome guy on plentyofifsh, okcupid, and face the jury. I specifically put I HAD NO JOB AND NO CAR. good looking firls WERE STILL READY TO MEET ME FOR CASUAL SEX. Even the girls who put "i want a relationship" in their profile showed no resistance for the one night stand. I got over 120 messages in 3 days WITHOUT INITIATING CONTACT. Why do people saying its about personality.. I mean seriously? WHAT THE F^^^ IS GAME... when all you can do is change your profile photo... and badabing badaboom you see what f^^^^ game is. LOOOKS!
If you don't have looks you have to do SO MUCH MORE and go above and beyond where as if you are born with looks you don't have to do any of that s^^^
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It sounds to me like he's a really good guy. Being there for your daughter is more than most guys are willing to do. If anything, I think because he cares for you, he cares for your daughter too and would definitely look down on any man who doesn't take care of his kids.
However, just because he's been there emotionally and perhaps financially, doesn't mean he's willing to take on the task of being a full-time father. I think he understands the level of responsibility this is and would prefer to be ready for it on his own time. After all, he didn't go out and have one on his own.
I believe if you do get him a "father's day" gift, it would scare the crap out of him...especially after that "I'm not ready to be REAL father" comment. It doesn't get any clearer than that. Unless he has explicitly said he wants to be her father, getting him a father's day gift would be awkward, even if he doesn't initially show it.
I suggest if you want to show him how much you appreciate him, keep it simple. Nothing that screams DAAAADDDDDYYY! Try a card saying we appreciate you, love you or just do something special for the day. Whatever you do, don't call it a father's day gift!
I do believe he loves you guys, but Don't push it, or he'll probably push back. Let things unfold. When and if he's ever ready, he will make it as official as he needs to so there's no confusion.0
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