Please, if you're going to be rude don't bother answering at all. A lot of people have a hot friend and feel self-conscious.
I have a friend who is drop dead gorgeous and she's a model. I usually attend events alone or with a guy friend but people are starting to think I don't have girl friends or friends I meet outside events. So now I kinda have to invite her and a few other friends in order to prevent a bad reputation. I'm nervous all of the guys will like her and forget me. Or they'll use me to get to her. I'm pretty sure once they meet her they will try to add her on Facebook or she'll add them. (Yes, she's seeing someone but it's not official and I'm not sure if he will come with her).
I know, this is a terrible and selfish thing to think. I'm not sure how to get over this.
Again, do not be rude and also saying "well you're pretty you have nothing to worry about" is not going to help either.
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Been there, done that. Being an introvert, most of my girlfriends were more outgoing than I was, and I had a few friends that were very beautiful. The kind kind of beauty that makes men stare and salivate. I can relate to how you begin to feel invisible.
A lot of people are going to tell you to now compare yourself to others - but it never helped me. How could I not compare myself when it was obvious that everyone else was making comparisons whenever we went out? I was the moon standing next to the sun. So I went out with her on my terms ... only when I could deal with the out come. I didn't do it when I was feeling particularly low or when I felt ugly, or when I needed to go out for a self esteem booster. When I wanted to have her certain brand of fun (she was kooky fun), or when I wasn't going out to meet someone of the opposite gender and other such situations, we hung out.
I love that you recognize that it isn't her but you with the problem. The way you are dealing with it is a way that you are comfortable with. Don't feel selfish or guilty for being honest with yourself.
I will say this though - I have had men who were not taken with my beautiful friend and approached me while I was out with her. That made me feel even better than usual, because they could see past the exterior and appreciate me as a person - something I thought was way more flattering than catching a guy with looks. Try not to let your insecurity around her bleed out too much - it is obvious no matter how subtle you think you are.
Lastly - there will always be others out there who are more and less than what you are ... but seeing you on your own I have to say you are a very beautiful woman. Don't let your comparisons take away from that.