I noticed while it usually works out when guys pursue girls, the reverse usually doesn't.
Moreover, if guys don't necessarily pursue aggressively, does that mean they're just not into the girl?
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It depends on the guy. Some guys need a little prodding, but in general, even if the girl has an aggressive style, she should leave the asking up to the guy. Girls tend to have a lot of suitors, so it's sort of a subconscious signal of desperation when a girl goes looking for a guy ("will no one else have her?"). However, not all guys will care, even if they have their own girls to pursue. It can be flattering to know that a girl has sought you out because it's a sign that she sees something worth having.
Regarding your second question, a guy can be very interested in a girl and not pursue her at all. It depends on confidence level. It's also true that some girls don't like to be aggressively pursued because they believe that the guy is seeking them for the wrong reasons (ex. one night stand).2