I am not trying to brag about anything, and I know it's a stupid question, but I've been noticing how a lot of guys notice me in all my classes (well, not a lot, but a couple).
Why do I get so much attention from people in my college classes?
I don't consider myself to be very attractive, cute maybe at best...
Is it possible that I am getting a lot of attention because of the fact that I may be friendly and approachable looking (as in average looking...) I've been brooding over this phenomenon...it's quite strange-i've always had low self esteem, and it's kind of weird how guys show me attention, either direct or indirectly, because I don't consider myself to be that attractive...maybe they think I'm easy? Or maybe it's just because of the fact that I am Asian, and there aren't a lot of Asian girls at my college?
I never got this much attention from guys in the past (2 or 3 years ago) when I was 10 lbs lighter and was considered more attractive before. then, it seemed like guys (especially around my age ) would just ignore me or avoid me, almost as if I were intimidating to them...
I know how attractiveness is supposed to attract more people to you initially or whatnot, but I've experienced something quite opposite- the more attractive you are, the more unapproachable you seem to the opposite gender, especially to the inexperienced college guys (unless they are douches or have a lot of confidence)...
I'm paranoid that I'm only getting attention from guys (who are mostly not that attractive) because I've gotten "uglier" and less intimidating...
Anybody agree or get anything I've just said?!
I don't feel flattered by any attention I get from any guy these days...it's weird, but it doesn't put me at ease when anybody approaches me.
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"approach easy-going looking or unattractive girls...which gets me even more worried, and think less of myself..."
Not true. Well horn dogs will approach easy-going girls sure, but the other part is not true. Guys are more likely to approach girls who are not as attractive as others because they feel like they have a better chance with you. they feel too intimidated by the really attractive girls.
It does NOT mean you are unattractive, just approachable, maybe even friendly looking. Why not just give one of these guys a chance if they ask you out?2
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