I'm not posting a picture because I'm not asking for compliments...
but OK. I'm a quiet person. humble and laid back. but I can be dorky and funny too. I'm a pretty cool person.
well, when I was in middle school, I had many friends. girl and guy friends. when we would hang out during lunch or something, or after school, I noticed that the guys treated some of my friends differently. they played around with me and everything. we would argue or just talk or joke around. but with some of my friends, they would flirt, I think. they would touch them. like smack their butt, or grab their legs. or my friend would sit in their laps. (I know! sounds slutty). but the guys never treated me that way. not that I want to be grabbed. that would piss me off. but the guys didn't act with me like that. even this friend who I later found out had feelings for me wouldn't touch me inappropriately. he would just hang around me a lot.
and in high school, I noticed the same thing. I had a friend who hung out with many guys and I didn't know this but a girl I know said that one of my friend's guy friends confused her with my friend and he grabbed her ass when he hugged her. I didn't know she got along with guys like that. no wonder I saw many of her friends grabbing her legs and acting all weird.
and I see this a lot actually. that many girls with guy friends get along that way. that the guys grab their butts and legs and act all flirty and weird. but with me, the guys don't do that. they talk to me like normal, and we joke around and stuff but they don't grab me like those other girls.
so is this normal behavior? would I be unattractive then? or am I respectable or something? like I said, I don't want to be treated that way either. I would hate to be grabbed but it really makes me wonder whether this means I'm ugly? I don't think I'm that ugly. I'm OK. people tell me I'm cute and stuff. so I guess I can't be that ugly.
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Chances are your body language warns the guys off. I'm much the same way, guy friends that will tease and grab other girls won't ever try with me. It is a sign of respect but it can also mean you are intimidating. You don't want to be treated that way and your body language and actions announce that without you ever saying anything.
It doesn't mean you are not attractive. You can try to make yourself more approachable but it's not a bad thing. In fact, it's highly helpful when you go to a bar... no need to worry about random guys grabbing you. Body language is really useful once you figure out what you are doing.1
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