I don't understand. when I was scrawny and thin 6 months ago, girls were a lot more friendly to me and now that I'm fit because I started working out and work a hard labor job, I can barely get two words out of girls.
Just so you know, my face is nice, I've had girls tell me to my face that I'm cute or hot so it can't be because I'm ugly. And I'm not like steroid big, more like swimmer body now.
Should I just go back to being thin?
okay ...didn't know guys hate on other guys like girls hate on girls.
look my approach is fine, I can get girls in that manner if I need to, but I'm talking more about normal social interactions. like work or going to the store. There is a reason why I put this in behavior and NOT flirting. I'm just asking if it would be easier on me in general social situations to just lose the muscle.
I try very hard not to be a d-bag and at work I find that if I wear 2xl shirts people are just nicer
If you had listened to the advice on this board (if you had been a member) many people would have told you that working on being a buff musculature type can be counter-productive. It can be off putting to girls, even though they can find you attractive.
Ironically, you need to be even better at your people skills than the thin guys. You have to really excell at putting the girl at ease, and making her able to relax around you.
maybe you got too cute! ;) probably you have to approach them now and make them happy for talking to them . . ! don't worry, give a smile and let the rest come ...! good luck! :D
I think it's just the macho stereotype. We know it's bad to make generalizations but we also have really awful experiences with douchebags who tend to all look alike... so it becomes an avoidance kind of thing.
They don't want a buff guy apparently. But they don't want a guy who looks like he is annorexic. so to say, they want something in between, so I'm guessing average. I wouldn't put to much effort trying to figure out what a woman wants.. they're usually not to sure themselves, and it changes like their emotions.
You're probably just more intimidating. Now they look at you, and instead of seeing a harmless brother-type, they see you as a sexual object that's desirable and probably out of their league. They're flustered and scared to death of rejection, and that's going to cause them to hang back and not approach you.
Because that's how women work:
They want a guy with muscle...just not a lot of muscle
Sucks bro, I started lifting in high school for sports, after I was able to lift 300 lbs and such, I looked like a tank. And girls refused to talk with me like they did freshman year when I was weak and tiny.
It's probably something wrong with your approach rather than your appearance.