I need a bit of help where confidence is concerned. I'm not the best looking guy a, but not the worst either, but one thing that makes me somewhat insecure is my height. I know height is like, the be all and end all for women, and for a guy I'm fairly short (well below average for a guy). It's just one of the things that hurt my confidence because even with girls who are shorter than I am, it's sometimes a problem because they want a guy who is tall, not simply "taller than they are."
I know there are shorter guys out there but around here, its minimal. My main problem is competing for girls against guys who are taller than I am in larger social settings. I would say average, but there is nothing else physically about me that really compensates for the height. I've always had difficulty with dating because finding shorter girls takes time, and they still often want guys who are taller than I am haha. My main problem again is simply competing but I just want some female (or male) opinions on how I can win over a girl when I'm "competing" for her with a taller guy
I took a look at your profile and if that's really you in the pictures, you look above average to me. You have an amazing face with warm sexy eyes that are so beautifully shiny and your lips are sexy too and totally kissable :-). I don't think you have anything to worry about! Yes, many girls like tall men, but it's hardly the be all and end all. Don't be insecure (girls love confidence more than height) and don't think of dating world as some big competition. You have a lot to offer and girls would be lucky to have you - that's the attitude I'd recommend :-). Good luck!
Based on my dating track record - turns out I like the 'shorter guy'.
I mean, I don't purposely go out and look for short guys, but most of the guys I've dated int the past have been on the short side for men; as in shorter than a fair few of my female friends.
The problem is, you see it as a competition. Which in a way - I guess it is - but not because of your height. Very few women I know care about height that much. Most do simply prefer a guy to be their height or taller; I mean I have no female friends who has a preference for height more than 'at least as tall as me'.
I think it's something you've convinced yourself is the problem, rather than looking at other areas. Plenty of short guys date plenty of women. There must be something off elsewhere - and it's probably that you're slightly lacking in self confidence because you're so preoccupied with this height thing, which, for MOST girls, isn't that much of an issue.
I am 5'11. I have been with two guys who are shorter, (5'7 and 5'9) and I have gone on a few dates with shorter guys and I also dated a boy the same height. To me, and to many other women, height does not matter. It does not have a role in if you like some one. You are in high school though, and a lot of girls in high school are shallow because they are worried about what others think.
My current boyfriend is 6'1. I am taller than him in heels. He says, "As long as you feel beautiful, I don't care how much taller your heels make you" He takes me out and shows me off to everyone when I am in my heels. Granted he is 24 and I am 19, so we are done with caring what people think about that kind of thing.
For now, it sucks, yes, but HEIGHT DOES NOT MATTER. And if any girl says it does, she is shallow and she is looking for the wrong things in a relationship. Granted I would PREFER a guy the same height and me or taller, but that doesn't mean that I am not attracted to shorter men and I would not date shorter men.
You are a boy, you will be getting taller all the time and into your 20s, so don't worry too much about it. I would date a guy shorter than me, and other girls would too. Don't let it stop you.
I guess it depends on how short you are and how short the girl is. I'm 5'3 and I would rather date a guy who is 5'7 than a guy who is 6'0. I knew a girl who was 4'9 and she felt very uncomfortable with any guy over 5'6. The shorter you are, the shorter the girl should be. Then you will have success and everyone will think you're adorable.
if a guy wants to get me, he has to have certain personality traits. if I meet a guy whose personality is (close to) what I'm looking for, I don't care about his height cause personality makes me fall in love. and you are handsome too, which is a bonus :D
Not at all. Don't ever think of it as a competition with taller guys. If a girl likes you, your height won't matter at all. I'm 4'11'' and I can date a guy of any height because I'm much shorter than the average human being. In fact, I've only dated one really tall guy, the rest have been shorter or average. It all has to do with personality for me. I don't care how tall a guy is as long as he has all the characteristics I like. Don't worry about competing with other guys. If a girl goes out with a guy just because he's tall, their relationship isn't going to last long. In the end all that matters is what type of guy you are, not your height.
I'm 5'4" and I don't think I've met a guy my age who's shorter than I am, but to be honest, I can't say it's that big of a deal. I'm not saying I'm representative of many women though, the majority seem to care a lot :P
I'm just saying... my boyfriend could shrink a foot and it wouldn't give me a flicker of doubt about our relationship. Obviously that's different from giving a short *stranger* a chance, but I'm pretty sure if he seemed like a person I would like, I'd go for it.
You're fine. Napoleon was vertically challenged and it didn't seem to bother him. Leader of the nation... Not too shabby, right? (I know I'm leaving out big chucks of things like "military dictator," but you get my point, right?)
What precisely bothers you about your height? No matter how tall/short you are, just "stand tall" and be proud of who you are. Others will fall in line with that. "Size doesn't matter."
Hey it's my Stargate buddy! What's up man, hope you're doing good. I see this height issue is still bothering you. You've got to let it go man. The more you fixate on things you don't like about yourself, the more magnified they become and the more they effect your confidence. Listen to what all the girls are saying to you! Heatherlu knows what she's talking about, take her answer to heart. And start working out. In one of your comments you said it takes too long to get muscular. It takes some time yes, but with a proper workout scheduele, you can add muscle and look to be in great shape in a matter of months. I can email you my workout plan if you'd like. This is something you've got to snap out of your system otherwise it can inhibit your confidence for years.
I have the same issue. I'm 5'1 and at 28 I know I'm not going to get any taller. it is true that most women like tall men 6ft or more but I think if you dress nicely and present yourself with confidence than once someone get's to know you height won't matter so much.
my brother is like 5'10 or something and I know he get's way more women than I do (at least offline)
so as a shorter male you have to present other qualities about your self that others might find attractive. IE: artistic skill, any crafts you might know, if you went to collage for anything, dress nicely and speak up when you want your opinion to be heard.
Well if you're 5'5", then even though you are not the tallest person in the world, that could be a positive for you - some people just don't like it if their mate is a skyscraper compared to them.
Honestly, what truly matters if she likes you or not, and even though you probably won't have as much of a chance with some 6 feet tall girls, otherwise, anything could happen, as long as you stop dwelling about it, and just enjoy who you are.
I mean, you can't really grow taller than you are, right? And various girls who are shorter than you wouldn't mind, and I'm certain there are tall girls that would be okay with a shorter guy as well.
Well if it makes you feel any better, I'm 21 years old and never had a girlfriend in my life. Wanna know how tall I am? I'm 6'1". I'm not bad looking either, I have a really deep voice too and I'm a soldier. Physically I'm consider myself very attractive, but when it comes to my personality, I'm very quiet/shy and girls apparently want a guy who is a bit more outgoing. Point being, girls tend to judge people significantly more by personality than looks. Also to be quite honest, most short guys I see always have a hot girlfriend, even ones who have girls who are taller than them. Then there's the whole "short man syndrome" thing which also seems to bring in the women.
We all have insecurities but its best to realize there will be always be people taller, stronger, faster than ourselves so just have to get on with it. Don't let height affect the way you act towards girls or around other guys. Besides, you're a pretty good looking guy, you seem to be well dressed, etc.
just own your shortness bro, I have bros that are 5'4 and I'm 5'9 and they get more girls than I do because they are way more confident than I am. And id like to say I look alittle better than them but that confidence is key in every situation. don't even sweat it bro.
naw man just make sure you get a girl shorter than you otherwise itll look awkawrd.. Beside short girls have nice asses and boddies in general... I'm 6'6' and Ill very rarely hook up with a 5'4'' girl at party when I'm drunk af but I could never date one because how awkward it would look. The sex is great tho so I wouldn't be complaining if I were you. Plus if you're short its a lot easier to build your body at the gym. Best of luck
You're not alone bro. I'm in that catagory as well. I finally just said screw it and played the cards I was dealt. I agree with the ladies here because I realized that the only one that had the problem with it was me.