Yesterday I got a call from my aunt who is currently residing in the town and country I was born in (never raised there, moved when I was a baby). She called me because apparently she has found the most amazing/perfect girl for me. According to her, she is undoubtedly the most beautiful girl she has ever seen in her life (my aunt is 60 so that's saying something lol) and she's also a very sweet and lovely girl who she thinks I'd get along with great. It all sounded great, until she told me she was just 16! I'm 22, that's borderline pedo (actually it is). So I told my aunt hell no I will not go and meet this girl unless she's single 4 years from now. However, today I've been thinking it over and have started to sway my decision a little. My aunt has made her sound absolutely amazing and I really trust her her taste, but the girl is 16! Will it be very wrong if I go and visit her to just see what she's like. I'm not looking for a quick fix, I'm looking for the real deal.
Just to clarify the girl does not live in the U.S, she lives in another country and the culture there is different than here. It's very common for the parents to try and find a guy for the girl at that age. What they do is bring the guy in, if the girl likes him, they keep in touch, if not then they bring another guy. Also, the parents first ask the girl if she would like to see him, it's not forced on her. Most of the girls there are married by their early 20's. Another thing, my aunt
randomly met the girl's mom and she got invited to her house. While at the house my aunt spent some time with the girl then my aunt told her mom about me, the mom loved everything my aunt said about me and asked my aunt if she could tell me about the girl, my aunt agreed. The mom told the girl and she was fine with it. My aunt told me, which I said no to (now I'm thinking it over). I have until next summer to make my final decision, when I go on vacation there. If I do go through with it
the only point of it is to just get to know the girl so we keep in touch for a couple of years until she's to ready start a real relationship. It's still weird for me, but I really do trust my aunt and I don't want to throw away a great opportunity (if she's the way my aunt described her to me), but it's still weird, I can't come to a decision.
I would have updated sooner, but Sandy had other plans. My eldest cousin (that aunt's son) met the girl as well. I see him as my much older brother (he's 15 years older and lived with my family for three years and I thought he was my brother until I was like 6 lol) and when it comes to reading women and people in general I don't anyone that's better at it than him (his job is solely dependent on that ability). People are his specialty. He basically told me the same thing that my aunt did
except with a different choice in words lol (ex. biggest f***ing idiot if I don't go see her because guys are soon going to form a line to be with her). Also, he has great taste in women and he also said that she's one of if not the most beautiful girl he has ever seen. So he has convinced me to go see her. I promised him that if I go on vacation this summer I will go meet the girl (90% sure I'm going on vacation). Hopefully, she's as great as they made her out to be.
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Sometimes we meet people and it's just not the right timing. There is nothing wrong with finding out if your personalities click. You can still be friends with her, giving her birthday gifts (keeping track of how old she just turned) and give her a proper date when she's 20. Though at 18 she is an adult in the U.S. and 16 is the age of consent in some states. Just saying.