I am seriously scared of girls. When girls talk to me I get so nervous I just try to get the hell out of there end conversations as fast as I can LOL. I'm a pretty good looking guy, but didn't come into my looks until much later in life, so my confidence isn't quite there.
What really scares me is when they make jokes with me, they assume I'm able to keep up with them and add on to the vibe. My sense of humor just isn't good enough to keep up, and so many conversations fall flat because of it. :(
I really don't know what to do. I'm really suffering from avoidance now. I feel like I'll never be able to get a girlfriend, and I've even contemplated suicide. :( Although, I'd never actually follow through with such a thing. Is there anything I can do? I really want to just have the ability to keep up with them in conversation and be comfortable. :(
Grrr! It happened again today! >: ( This really cute girl in my class I never spoke to said a joke to me and I just wanted to run away. :( I recently had surgery, so now I've started walking with a cane instead of crutches, and she goes: "Ohh! He's a pimp! He's got a pimp cane!" and some other stuff, then later walked by my seat and said "What up pimp!" I really tried to just end all the jokes and communication as fast as I could. :(
This is hurting my love life and I don't know what to do :(
sounds like social anxiety. I have it and while mine was a strong case it also made me especially afraid of talking to guys. try talking to someone about it, I mean a professional cause I needed actual meds, but only a professional can tell you if somethings really wrong.
note: just a guess by me could be completely wrong
Something that could definitely help is to get your confindence up! I found that when I was more confident in myself I was way more social and comfortable with the people around me. It's easier said than done but will probably help!
Just be who you are and avoid the thought of rejection. It's the best possible answer for these kinds of situations. If you think about it too much, it'll only get worse. Loosen up, have some confidence, you said you look good. The humor isn't all that important in conversation, hell, it's only one part of many different conversations that can be initiated. Go out, hang out out in the club, socialize with groups of people and you'll meet new chicks. It's natural. Good luck.
Start by making small talk with every girl you have a chance to. Groceries, bank, elevator, etc... Just Hey hows it going, f***ing cold outside isn't it? sh*t like that but with less swearing so they don't think you're rude : P