By that I mean, when should I ask him where he wants us to go. I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks, and I'm most definitely looking for a relationship. No sex or even close to it, until he officially commits to me. I have no idea what he's looking for because he is a teenage guy after all. When would be the right time? I don't wanna freak him out by bringing it up too soon.
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You should fairly immediately let the guy know what YOU want in general. Tell him something like:
"Just so I'm up-front with you, I don't do "casual" relationships and I don't have sex outside of committed relationships. Obviously, it's still way early for us, and we don't yet know if this is going to work for us or not, but I want to be fair to you and let you know that, with me, the choices are really 'just friends' or 'official relationship.' I'm not looking for any third options."
You aren't asking him to make any decisions at that point, and it's too early for that; you don't know each other well enough yet, and that's what the dating process is for: to learn about each other. But he needs to know up-front that if he's hoping for a FWB type situation with you that he's wasting his time and yours, and if that's the case, he can end it now, before you get too attached. And if he continues, you'll know that he's aware of your future expectations, so there's far less likely to be any nasty surprises in that area.2