not to be a condescending ass crack, but why is it that women complain about sexism but think its okay to do it to men? for instance, many women complain about them not making as much money as men, but expect their date to always pay for meals and other stuff. or complain about people thinking they are weak and not independent but expect people to open doors and pull out chairs. or women say they are for the feminist movement but then tell their dates that they're "old fashioned"
obviously not all women do this but I see it a lot. what do people have to say about this now that I've said that?
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You don't earn a living by having a door opened. I don't know any women who give a sh*t about that stuff. I know a lot of men who use this hypothetical preference as an excuse to call women sexist. and or an excuse to promote sexism.
opening doors is a personal preference. if you don't want t do it you dint have to. earning less money is political situation, and it isn't solved personal just by referring or not preferring it to be the case.
one situation is personal and volitional. the other is political and public.
earning less on the dollar is not a battle of the sexes. its a function of gender roles which are created and established and exploited by the society you live in.
if you look seriously at the arguments men should open doors women should not be aggressive. men should make more money women should be more nurturing. there's no actual reason for any f it . its completely arbitrary preferences that are not personal and much harder to change than deciding you don't want to open doors or ;pay for a date.
if you don't want to open doors dont. there's nothing to that. someone earning substandard wage because of their sex can not simply decide to they will no longer do that.
anyways. I personally think you should let her get the check and let her open your doors. I'm guessing youd not actually _like_ that. you just like bitching about it.
i would also assume that there's a possibility for the women who don't mind the guy paying. maybe they reason it out that since they are making less, its a small step towards evening things out. though again, I don't know anyone who expects or is even comfortable with someone paying for them.i only see people talk bot it on gag. and teen magazines.1