I have noticed this a lot here lately. A lot of (not all) women often complain, or gripe saying, "Why is it that every guy I ever find turns out to be a complete douche bag, or treats me really bad?", Why can't I ever find a nice guy that actually cares and gives a damn about me?" Yet whenever any "Mr. Nice Guy Type" does approach them they automatically get out the friend card.
However whenever some guy dressed in the Ghetto fashion with a sideways flat brim on walks in the room like, "Yo Yo Yo I'm A Playa" they are like, "O-M-G! I want him! Ashley! get me his number!"
So I just wonder what other people's opinions are on this, do you think they have room to complain when "Mr. Nice Guy types" are pretty much nothing more than part of the background to them?
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Some girls are naive and firmly believe in not judging a book by its cover, even though its cover is blatantly "Douche." Some girls aren't as guarded as others, they don't have as many "red flags." (And when we have "too many" red flags, we're told our standards are too high and we're stuck-up bitches, but that's another story.)
I get the observation, but I'm pretty tired of people constantly focusing on those choices and having no concern whatsoever with the actions of the guys who actually treat them badly. Nothing justifies abuse, nothing magically changes the "crime." People seem to have more sympathy for a guy who dates someone because he was drawn to her seductiveness and then gets cheated on, even though it's not that different than being drawn to a guy for his charm and then getting played.1