I realize he is just glancing but it happens every time we are in public now. From what I remember, he never used to do this. People say its a natural instinct, even still it makes me feel like crap like I'm not good enough and I feel insecure.Even more awkward if the girl knows he's looking over at her. If I see a good looking guy walk past in the corner of my eye or coming towards me, I don't glance over out of respect for my boyfriend. I've spoken to him about it and he gets annoyed and denies it, so I don't get anywhere. I don't want to break up with him but your really makes me feel like crap. Obviously there's always going to be someone more attractive, but do you really have to look when your girlfriend is right next to you?What do I do?Makes me feel so uncomfortable.
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I don't know about guys generally, but if I'm dating someone, I respect the person just the way you respect your boyfriend. My brother who is in his late 20's shows the same respect for his girlfriend. I see it as the only way to go.
That your guy gets annoyed by the discussion about it makes it seem like he expects to be allowed that level of disrespect.
Somehow, he should learn that it's not OK. If it really bothers you, it should be discussed. Don't let him deny it. Don't let it slip. In a chilled sorta way, of course.
Obviously, if you're alone and you spot an attractive person it's not a crime to pay them some attention, but one should lay off when WITH your girlfriend. That's how I feel. But if he treats you really well the rest of the way, I guess it's not such a bad sign if he's like that now and then. But if it's constant and it unsettles you, work it out with him.1