Like from high school to adulthood?
i met the guy I am currently interested in back in high school. He was a jerk back then, he was even rude to me although I never did anything to him. Anyway, I remember he was the class clown and he used to pick on the nerdy kids. I think he must have been insecure, and an immature jerk. Anyway, in class, he was always talking about how gross fat people were and all this crap. And I was fat. Those comments were probably directed at me because I sat nearby. ha ha And I have seen pictures and I did look hideous. It was in those times when the emo style was popular and I liked that music and wore heavy eye makeup, had big colorful hair, a lip piercing,.etc. I looked like a monster. ha ha if I was a guy, I wouldve rejected me.
And that year, he met my friends sister online but rejected her when he saw her in person. She was pretty but fat too and he said she wasn't his type. I think he didn't like her for weight.
Anyway, I am now 20 and he is 21. I'm not emo anymore. I'm just me. I don't wear too much make up anymore and I dress better. I'm still fat though. People say I look thinner, but I think its just that I dress better or something. Idk. So I see him at work. I always resented him for the way he treated me (although I understand why. I looked gross!) but decided to let it go. Ill never forget it.though. And now I like him. I tried not to but he's so awesome! he's not that attractive to me but he is really cool. he's nice and polite when he comes. He seems to have grown up and matured, in some areas. but I know he's probably still a jerk. I don't think that will ever go away.
he makes me so nervous though. When he comes in, I can't even look at him in the face and I look at the floor alot. I try to go unnoticed but it never works. He always sees me. :( I work at a hair salon so he comes about once a month. I don't know if he can tell I get nervous but when I go and sweep the hair at that station, he stands close to me, in front of the mirror and starts to fix his hair. it makes me think he gets an ego boost out of making me nervous. Who knows.
Anyway, regarding my question, is it possible guy's stop being so shallow after high school? I don't know if the guy would say those things to look good in front of his friends, because he was quite popular. Or he really hates fat people and maybe still does so I have no chance? I'm not huge but I'm not curvy. I'm a bit heavier than what is considered curvy. What I find odd is that guys try to talk to me now. I do look kind of nice I guess but I don't think I deserve all this male attention. I'm used to being the ugly girl. its so weird that even high school guys stare a lot now but when I was in h.s, they wouldn't even glance at me.
So yeah I'm not asking if likes me. I'm wondering if guys change their preferences or standards after high school? I wonder if I stand a chance with this guy.
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Yes we can change. Some more than others. Some not at all.
One day most wake up and think "Wait a second, the world is too difficult for me to be giving crap to everyone just because they are different from me." or something to that effect.
Maybe he has had to eat humble pie, maybe he got over his immaturity, who knows... but yes people can change...1