Consider this scenario. A guy is ugly (or average looking, rather) and his height is just 5'7". But apart from his bad looks, he's just perfect in every other way. He doesn't smoke, drink or do drugs. Respects women a lot. Has a great sense of humor. Maintains good hygiene and keeps himself well groomed. Is really romantic. Doesn't go around flirting with random girls when he's in a relationship. So girls, if such a guy asks you out, would you reject him based solely on his average looks while ignoring loads of other positives about him? Please give your honest opinion.
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I was reading this article on cracked that was the most eye opening thing I'd ever read concerning people. The author said that you are only as good as what you offer others. It can seem mean to think that way but it's true. Why are your friends your friends? Why are you their friends? It's because you guys offer each other something that you can't get/do yourselves. He gave the example of a wife whose husband had just been stabbed in the street and she was calling out for a doctor as a group of people gathered around. A man came forward and said that he'd give it a try. She asked if he had ever performed surgery and he said no but that he was really nice and helped his family all the time. She asked if he was even a doctor and he said no but he loved reading and treated all of his girlfriends well. Something like that. The point is, you can have qualities about yourself that are good but if you don't offer something that a girl is looking for, she will look elsewhere. There are plenty of average joe's with ethereal angels but that's because they gave the girl what she was looking for. Some girls want a loser who dreams of being a rock star but barely practices with his band and lives in his mom's basement at 30. Some girls want a decorated officer or even just a guy in a uniform. Some want a guy who's always too busy, some one that can be their sugar daddy and baby them and pay for things.
I think you give the girls too much control. You're in control as the guy, the hunter. Find your prey, figure out what will be good bait, let them grab the bait and then trap them. Or at least do some things that interest you so you can be appealing to girls who want a guy that does the things you do. Any guy can treat a girl well and be romantic and nice and straight edge and funny. What else can you offer that is unique?0