I had at least two great opportunities to pick up stunningly gorgeous girls today.
First, I saw the most beautiful redhead in my life (it matters that I am also redheaded). I sat right in front of her and glanced at her from time to time and she would look back a few times and sit a little provocatively. After about 20 minutes I got up and walked around for just a minute to calm down. When I got back, the girl was getting ready to leave. She probably thought I was a creep since she noticed me about 30 feet behind her when she left.
Second, I looked at this girl at a coffee shop tonight. She looked back and was not even afraid to look back. She knew I was looking, almost like she was begging me to approach her. After about 20 minutes the tension evaporated and about 30 minutes later she left.
Both times I was afraid that I would sound dull or stupid or painfully nervous. I know I am not, kind of like public speaking or speaking in class, which I always do very well in.
Were these real opportunities to get their numbers or ask them out? How do I get over these ridiculous fears?
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Forget the pseudo-babble... The fact is, you spoke about how beautiful they were and how you didn't approach due to the tension. Unless I'm mistaken and you gave it a shot to converse with them for more than a minute - I really don't think this would be a proper scenario to say "Yes, you did it! Go for her number!"... You didn't do anything wrong per se' - You just failed to initiate and try to learn who she is. She might seem like a really cool gal from across the room, and a gorgeous person at that, but what you might fail to see is that she is conceited or vicious.. Neither are traits that I could personally stand (which is why I use them as an example). Alternatively, you might find out that she is extremely dramatic (something you may not stand?) ... etc etc etc..
Without initiating, you are basically saying "Hey, I want everyones' phone number".. Which could either make you seem superficial (e.g. looking to get laid every night of the week) or position you for a later friendship. You want to come across as the guy who is cool/confident/etc so that she can wonder whether or not to give you a chance... This puts you in the position to have wiggle-room and get another "encounter" where you can further show her how fun you can be, etc.. And all of this is achieved by how you talk/behave/walk/etc. That's why initiating and conversing is important in dating, in my own opinion.
Hope it helps,