I respect that some girls aren't into older guys but how do I figure out if a girl I notice would be open to an older guy? I'm scared of her figuring out that I'm actually older than I look and that she'll be younger than I thought. I'm scared of looking like a perv.
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Short Answer: Flirt - with - her.
Short (detailed) Answer: Flirt with her (subtly). This means act like a gentleman (no touching, commentary on her body/breasts, no sexual implications, etc) There's less chance of you looking like a pervert if she's not into it. Likewise if she's not interested, she may be able to just write it off (in her head) as 'some nice older guy' that likes to talk.
Long Answer: This is the same answer I give to almost all guys regarding the ever-present "Does she like me" question. Watch how she interacts with other people (esp guys) and if she reacts differently to you, then there's a SLIGHT CHANCE she's interested. Next comes flirting. If she flirts with you, then there's 2 possibilities:
1) She's interested in you (as more than a friend)
2) She enjoys flirting (only)
Be honest though. Some girls will tell you straight up that they're flattered, but not interested in older men. These are the same ones that will be disappointed if you hide your age. There's subtle ways of figuring out how old someone is:
- Are you going to school/taking classes around here?
- Back when I was a kid we'd (insert dated material here).
- I went to (school)/graduated from (school) back in (year).0