We just got a new guy in at work. One of my coworkers is madly in love with him so automatically I thought, "hands off," you know? But the only 2 times I've worked with him he is always looking at me! Sometimes he'll smile. Sometimes he'll look away like he doesn't want me to see him looking. Sometimes he laughs. I'm like, OK. Either I have something all over my face or he's checking me out. I really can't tell. But I don't have the nerve to say anything since my other coworker is so hung up on this guy. Any ways I can figure it our on my own?
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If he's looking at you like you say, then he's clearly attracted to you.
Now, make sure you realize that this is purely physical/sexual attraction at this point, because he doesn't know you yet. Even if he does get to know you, he may or may not click with your personality, just like you don't click with every guy you meet. The physical attraction will still be there, though.
Anyway, the reason he is looking at you is because he's looking for signs from you that you might be interested in him. He wants a positive green-light from you that he should approach you and ask you out/hit on you. So far, it sounds like you haven't given him anything, so he's still in a holding pattern waiting. He won't wait forever.
I should also mention that you should REALLY reconsider dating a co-worker at all. Assume you date for a month, and find out he's a jerk, or he cheats on you, or tells the whole office you were a bitch, or whatever. Now you have to work with this guy every day, and he's dividing the office into "his camp" and "your camp." That gets incredibly awkward and can make your life miserable. In fact, that's how the majority of co-worker relationships end up, and people can get fired as a result.
Then there is your co-worker to deal with. If she's told you that she really likes the guy, etiquette says that you should not pursue him unless you talk to her first and she says she's okay with it. Do anything else, and again, your workplace is going to be a miserable place.0