Well, watch a few videos from your fellow ladies on this subject:
Here's a summary:
Female proposition: I want to be able to light a match around gasoline without causing a fire. But gasoline sucks so much that every time I try to light a match, it lights up on fire. What can I do?
Average person: I dunno, why don't you try not lighting a match?
Feminist response: No! I should be able to light up a match whenever the f*ck I want! If a fire ensues, it's NOT MY FAULT. I'm not responsible for my actions or accountable for my behavior. It's gasoline's fault, it's someone else's fault. This never would have happened if there wouldn't have been oxygen. I've the victim here! Why? Because I WANTED TO LIGHT A MATCH! I have a right to light a match with no consequences following!
Okay, enough with the analogies. What are you, and women like you, really saying? You're saying that you would like to look "cute." What is cute? It's "some degree" of being "visually appealing." The bigger question, however, is "why do you want to look cute in the first place?"
You want to look cute so you can . . . feel better about yourself. What is the mechanism which makes you feel better about yourself? You feel better about yourself when you feel more sexually attractive or desirable (i.e., your sexual market value is validated). How does your sexual market value become validated? It's validated solely by extrinsic evidence.
The reason it's validated solely by extrinsic evidence is because the benchmark is actually created from purely extrinsic sources (magazines, television, advertizements, p*rnographic videos, comparison to other women, comparison to the behavior and responses from men, etc.) Your brain is trying to get "validation" that you are "sexy" by soliciting information from external sources (i.e., other women, and men). Otherwise, you would dress up in a mirror at home, and then walk outside in a puritanical super-conservative business suit.
But you don't. The reason you don't do that is because you are looking for attention from other women (to act as a proxy for what they believe men would respond to in the sexual market place) or indirectly from men (as they just sit back and passively observe you).
What you are asking for, to be clear and precise, is to throw yourself into society seeking ONLY the benefits of validating how you feel about yourself WITHOUT any of the risks associated with those actions (e.g., that men give you indirect or direct attention; men look at you; men talk about you; men talk to you; men flirt with you; etc.).
So, you want ONLY the BENEFITS without being exposed to any CONSEQUENCES for your actions.