A married dad looks at me a lot at my son's school. At first I thought nothing of it, but then it became more obvious. One time I was walking by and I looked up and he was staring right at me, looked away really quick, then back again sheepishly. He finds me in a crowd of other parents and stares a bit. I see his reflection in the school windows watching me (it's definitely me as I stand in a section that no one else is in.). Isn't it weird to stare at someone from behind? The weirdest thing he did was come to the school with his wife and proceed to constantly glance over at me right in front of her. I felt like he wanted my reaction even though I don't know this guy from anything! At one point his wife was giving me a stink-eye side glance! I decided to bring my husband to school with me so he would stop staring, but he paid even more attention! He even listened in to a conversation my husband and I were having with a teacher! I looked over and he was staring right at me again!
There are days he seems to keep to himself and I think maybe he's stopped, but then he start again.
What is this about? Anyone else think this is weird? Guys, what is up with this guy?
What is it about? He thinks your hot, probably wants you although he knows he can't have you
It's not especially weird. Some guys don't understand boundaries. Some may know that they can glance at a lady or even stare under the correct circumstances but some don't get that and it probably means that socially he is a bit inept.
Society does seem to accept a certain amount of ogling. A quick glance or the ocassional stare but this guy doesn't get it. Some days maybe he realizes it but at other times he probably just lets his lust get the best of him. It's also fair to say that he probably isn't all that satisfied in his marriage (not just sexually necessarily).
If it bothers you too much you may need to say something to him. It doesn't have to be confrontational, but something along the lines of (in a relatively crowded area so he has to behave himself) "hey I notice you check me out. That is OK to a point and I'm flattered but it is also a bit inappropriate (particularly with our spouses around) and is going to get you or I in trouble so please stop"
Hang on what school is this?... it could be me... hahahahaha sorry no I am not that sleazy... it is VERY weird behavior it's one thing to be attracted to someone and give them the odd glance but to stare at you constantly must make you fell so uncomfortable and it is very creepy and rude, I think you need to approach him either directly or via the school principal as it is inappropriate behavior and very anti social also believe it or not but by law it can be seen as an assault as the law states an assault is any unwanted advance and no person should be subject to this kind of behavior .
he's hoping you'll notice him noticing you and that it will turn you on. When he saw that you were married it only aided his 'quest' as it means you would have just as much of a reason to keep things a secret as he would.
Guys like this are very shy, so if you want it to stop all you should have to do is call him out on it.
Hello, guys chase and stare at girls they find attractive, if the guy loves the girl he is with a girlfriend or wife - then he ignores other women. if he has integrity, loyal. I think that others are players and always want more, who are not loyal. I think that if you are no longer in love then its better to break up or divorce, with exceptions to people who are in their 50-ies. they are guys who can cheat, and stare at every woman. I have known guys who cheated, I have a friend who has a wife but always speaks, stares at other women, but not flirts which is a good thing, a colleague of mine not only stares like the guy you talk about but also flirts and touches other women. Even I wouldn't behave that way with the girl which I just met, and frankly I find such behavior horrible. More so the girl even flirts back, and I think that he would cheat, and talks disrespectfully about his wife and kids. There are people like this.
He finds you attractive so he's looking!Maybe to make it less awkward have a conversation with the couple when both spouses are there so then maybe you Can Make this a friendly encounter rather than a creepy googly eyed staring event.
Maybe he's on medication, he doesn't get out as much as you think, or he has crappy relationship. But probably he's a creepy mentally ill stalker type, because that's something that only normal boys tend to do when they are like 10-13. (stare and daydream about girls right in front of them)
have your husband give him a lecture or at least aproach him about it. Sometimes people can be so "out of it" they don't even know what they are doing and just need reminded to be polite, a welcome back to earth kind of thing.
You are looking too much into it. There could be a ton of reasons he looks at you. He may be an observing type of person. For all you know, he could look at everyone like that. He may thinks you are attractive. Just because he is married doesn't mean he is happy. A very high percentage of people are extremely unhappy and married. Worst case scenario, he is a stalking pervert who might hurt you if he gets you alone. The point is that you never know. Don't be paranoid, it's not worth the stress, but also be aware of the possibilities.
It is always possible to find someone attractive and you want to look at that person. But after the VERY FIRST indication I get that she is conscious, I don't do it again. This guy is a little strange. And one thing I don't do is, stare at other girls when my wife is with me. OK - I mean, I don't go blind; but I control myself.
He finds you attractive and knows that he can't have you. He may not realize he is staring, he probably isn't trying to creep you out but if it really bothers you tell him your flattered for the attention but its inappropriate
this guy is definitely a creeper, and possibly a sex offender. check out your local sex offender registry and see if his name is on there. if necessary, alert the school authorities. better safe than sorry
One, this guy kind of creeps me out too. Two, the action would depend on if he decides to take it further by talking or going other places you are at. I think he looks at you and might see something missing in his own life, might even be a fantasy of some sort to him. You should how ever, tell him to leave you alone. It's fine to look at a pretty woman sometimes, but not to the point he's causing issues with others, to include his own wife. if it proceeds, tell her to have him leave you alone.
Plain and simple he wants to have sex with you! His sex life with his own mate must be stale so he sees you and his mind starts racing with ideas and he can't stop from staring. It's probably harmless desire on his part. I would just take it as a compliment because something about you is driving him crazy.
You're allowed to look, but not touch..we're all human, after all
It's what he views as a "safe" way to oogle something he finds attractive. Be careful to keep distance and not get to know him. Only bring a headache. Cozy up to his wife if you want and let her know you are not a threat and not interested.. (not specifically of course) last thing you want is for her to spread any rumors about you being a hussy, but keep him at bay! Enjoy the compliment, however creepy it is, that he finds you attractive.
omg what a creep! The wife is obviously clueless... she should be giving him the stink eye not you! He sounds like the kind of guy that if you gave him a reaction he would just come on stronger, you need to avoid him and just ignore his creepiness if he does something really obviously disrespectful then stand up for yourself... There is just not much you can do since he is not saying anything.. If you accuse him of flirting with you he will probally just call you crazy..