A lot of people complain about how much women are made to look perfect in magazines and how they're never any fat women on the covers. But I find that, well why would I want to buy a magazine and look at someone who isn't perfect looking and photoshopped? I don't want to buy a magazine and look at ugly people, I can go outside and do that. I'm just confused as to why people think it's such a big deal, I know that it gives women the wrong idea of how they're supposed to look and blah blah. But don't you know that in real life that girl is probably yes still very pretty but not perfect? And people say it causes eating disorders, but does it really? I find that usually the root cause is much bigger than that. All I know is I'm more likely to pick up a magazine and say "wow that girl is beautiful" and makes me want to actually look through it and see more. But I'm not going to think "wow that girl is average, she looks like an every day girl! Now I really want to buy what she's wearing!"
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I think photoshopped women (AND MEN) is a good thing.
Sure, it makes people feel bad, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Some people are better at coping with negative feelings than others. That, however, is a matter of "poor coping skills." It doesn't mean that striving for something better is bad or negative.
As a guy, when I look at guys in magazines, I know they're photoshopped. I know these guys don't really look like that. But, I still aspire to look "close" to that. I know it's attractive. I know women like it. I know I would look better, so I strive towards better. These magazines, this artificial ideal, keeps us striving and working towards something better.
There's research showing that people who hang around overweight family members and friends end up gaining weight and becoming overweight themselves. That's because the group dynamic (social pressure) lowers the bar on what's an "acceptable" body weight. There's also research showing that people who hang around friends or family with poor hygiene start to take less care of themselves.
Sure, seeing pictures of people who are "better" than us makes us "feel bad" about ourselves. We automatically rank ourselves and rightfully conclude that we're "not as good" as others. Yet, people can choose to respond to that in two ways.
1. Try to justify denying the reality and find excuses to create a social support system that prevents us from feeling bad.
2. Accepting the reality and using it as motivation to better ourselves.
If I see a guy on the Forbes 500 list, yes, I have to admit I'm not a billionaire. But, that bad feeling is quickly turned around into motivation to better myself financially. If I see a guy on the cover of GQ, yes, I have to admit I'm not as stylish or well-groomed or dressed. But, that bad feeling is quickly turned around into motivation to look better. If I see a guy on the cover of Muscle or Men's Fitness, yes, I have to admit I'm nowhere near as fit as him. But, that bad feeling is quickly turned around into motivation to start eating better, working out better, and building muscle better.
That's how people with healthy coping skills deal with those negative feelings. I think it's very socially detrimental for women to foster this network of supporting each others' negative coping skills.
These magazines just motivate people to look better.3