Ok, so being the youngest my older siblings have reached the child-rearing phase of their lives earlier than me. I had a beautiful niece born a few weeks ago (my brother's daughter-yay!) and am expecting a nephew by Christmas (my sister's son). I'm genuinely excited about getting to be part of their lives from the beginning, it's so cool!
But, I'll be honest, I'm not sure I want kids myself and I'm using caring for my niece and nephew and my experience with them as a trial run to see if I think it's what I want. Is that horrible?
Nah, I was the same way. I liked to play with kids, but wasn't so sure I wanted to be a dad.
I guess I just wasn't ready, like most guys.
My younger sister was the first one of us to have a baby, who also never wanted the job of parenthood lol. It was after I got to know my nephew and saw how he grew up and took a liking to me, I knew I wanted to become a dad.
Not long after that my wife got pregnant and I was counting the days, my daughter was born and I was pretty much hooked from day one. She's 2 now and has so much spunk and energy, I get lost sometimes hahaha. When they give you that loving affection and smile with so much joy, is the satisfaction you'll get out of being a parent and want to experience over and over again.
This is just how I have experienced it day to day and in no way am I suggesting parenthood to anyone.
Too QA, just care for your nieces and nephews and if it clicks it clicks and you'll know if this is what you want, if it doesn't no shame in that. Just become the cool aunt that always says yes and make it harder for the parents, by giving their kids sugar rushes.
No, it's reasonable to look at your siblings' situation and experience.
Chances are your child bearing time will be generally similar, so getting a chance to see what it's about is advisable before you make any final decision about having kids yourself. Otherwise, you're engaging in guesswork when you ask yourself if having children would work for you.
Of course that is not horrible. It is a good barometer to see if you will want to have your own children.
it seems as though, for some people, wanting kids, and not wanting kids, goes in phases. I personally don't want them right now (for a couple of reasons) but who knows, I may want them. women are more likely to want them because their biological clock tells them so