I see a lot of guys say things like this. I would like to have a fair and honest discussion about it.
Guys, why do you think this?
Girls, what is your take on it?
Please, please, please, please, please, please, PLEASE keep it civil.
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I'm not getting on your ass, Ranger, but it annoys me when I see sh*t like this. (I'm about to use "you" a lot, but I don't mean YOU. I mean "you, in general") Because first of all, who gets to decide what is attractive? Do I? Because I have weird taste in men, I'll tell you right now. So it can't be me. Anyone else? Who decides the standard for what is attractive in a man physically? Okay, now who gets to decide the standard for women? Once everyone in the United States (I won't get crazy and insist on a world-wide scale, we'll keep it local-ish) agrees to these standards, then we can have a f***ing discussion about who wants what in whom and to what degree and other (if any) mitigating factors. It's annoying to be told what I want, how I feel, and what I think. I think that is my biggest issue with all this. Yes, it's true- I do own a vagina. I keep it with me all the time, we're cool like that. This identifies me as a person who was born with XX chromosomes... there's a little more to me than that- I'm just saying. I am not the sum of my parts, for Christ's sake. Neither are you. Neither is anyone.
People are individuals. Women AND men get to be unique people who are more than what they keep in their pants. When you lump people together and assume that what is true about one person must also then be true about other people who share the same vague physical characteristics, what you have is a bunch of STUPID. We can't relate to each other in this way. Check it out: my ex husband has blue eyes that are kind of round. He also has a horrible temper and liked to slap me around. What if I decided that all blue-eyed people with roundish peepers are just aching to whip my ass? What if I decided that I don't like it and if I want to avoid it, I need to get the drop on all you blue-eyes? Would you like that? That would be STUPID. How about if I told you that you're a violent, sadistic mofo because I said so? And because I said so, that makes it true?
Guess what. I am perfectly aware of what I like and what I don't like. I know what I mean when I say something. You don't get to tell me how I am. If I say I like a man who's compassionate and sincere and smart and secure and can make me laugh because THAT is what I find attractive, then nobody gets to tell me that sh*t isn't true. That is what I find distasteful about all this "Girls don't care about confidence. They only care about looks" sh*t. Do not f***ing tell me what *I* care about because you don't know. I am the resident f***ing expert on ME, okay? I live with me everyday and I take me with me everywhere I go, and I have been through a lot of sh*t with me- I KNOW ME BETTER THAN YOU DO. So when you ask ME a question, and I tell you what *I* think, you don't get to tell me I'm wrong. How about THEM apples? You don't get to forcefeed me your opinion or your agenda or your ANYTHING. You ask me what I want, and I will tell you ,and then you can shut the f*** up about it.
I'll do the same for you.6