So... Apparently I'm a very average looking girl, some guys may hit on me I suppose, some don't. Very normal.
Now here's my problem, why do I keep refusing to believe that I'm just average looking and not gorgeous? lol.
I would like to think that I have a great personality, and at the same time I keep thinking, I am very pretty too. But others don't see me this way.
Is it a good thing to think that you are better looking than you actually are? I'm not trying to sound conceited but I find myself very good looking (I have days where I think I'm hideous) and sometimes I tell myself that people are intimidated by me that's why I don't get approached more... Is this normal or what?
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Evaluating yourself high maybe good for yourself, but truthfully you aren't trying to attract yourself but someone else. I've seen this a lot. Some girl would rate themselves higher than they actually are, especially when wearing make up or asset enhancing clothes (e.g 8 if they are a 5) Then guys who are 5's will see through rhe facade and see you as an equal and will hit on you/ask you out. They say "No" because these guys are "beneath" them even though they are both 5's. Now the guys who are 8's will generally not go for 5's not matter how high these 5's may see themselves. Now these girls claim that "there are no guys" because they have have excluded their equals in pursuit of more attractive guys because they have tricked themselves into thinking they are more attractivr than they really are
Bottom line is that it my be good for personal growth, but terrible for relationship growth1