I am thin, (athletic, so muscular too, but not muscular enough to be gross) and this guy I like always makes a joke like you look extremely strong and stuff. Like I'm strong like a guy or something, is that a turnoff to be muscular? Like its not like my muscles show that much, they barely do, but I feel like the reason he hasn't asked me out is Because I am muscular. So my question is: do guys prefer a thin, athletic muscular girl? O jut a thin girl who does not workout?
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I think what he really means is that you act to masculine. I don't think he literally means you are too physically muscular. Either he doesn't even know how to describe what he's feeling, or he's just saying it as an excuse because he doesn't want to tell you to your face that you are like a guy (more or less) which he thinks will sound like an insult. Finally, it might just be his nice way of saying, your to overweight for him.
I'm assuming that you are the girl with the black eyed peas shirt in the photo. Obviously I can tell you are a girl, but I'll be honest and say that you aren't exactly portraying a look of femininity. It doesn't look like you are wearing any make up to show off your feminine features, and your clothes are tomboyish (assuming its jeans, t-shirt, and gym shoes). The girl to your right from the little I can see of her, seems more feminine that you. She seems to be wearing a dress and her hair style is longer, flowing, and is more uniquely feminine. Also judging from your picture, and compared to what I can see from the girl on your right. You don't exactly seem to be very thin (sorry just being honest so I can help you). If anything you see like you might be a tad bit overweight which many guys are pretty sensitive too. We don't accept extra lbs as willingly as women do. Again, being feminine is about softness and fragility. We like a fit girl who has some muscle tone, but we don't like a girl who has excess weight or who looks like she could be a professional weight lifter. Unless you are roiding it up, It be pretty hard to get too much muscle. Focus more on losing fat. That's what most guys look for.
What I'm trying to say is that guys like a girl who is feminine, not a tom boy. This doesn't mean you have to go overboard like your paris hilton or kim kardashian. Quite frankly, those girls are way to vain. But looking like ellen page in juno is not good either. Using that as an example, you need to go from this link to this link
It's also about demeanor. It's fine to be into sports, trucks and football. As a matter of fact, most guys would probably love that. But at the same time, you still need to act like a feminine, fragile, and soft girl, not a rough and tough boy.
Basically in a nutshell, what I'm trying to say is the total package isn't feminine enough, which means guys aren't going to be attracted to you. Just think about it this way, would you find a guy attractive who is twig skinny, wears tight female-esk clothing, is quite and shy, and is all around timid weak? Most likely not because he's void of all masculine qualities.