Sorry for this rant. This is the result of me being set off by the most recent mistake someone made.
I am 20 years old but at my best, I look maybe 15. Maybe. Mostly 12. I get asked if I want a kid's meal when we go out, I get hit on my middle school boys, never taken seriously. Everyone at my university thinks I am a visiting younger sister of a student. No guy my age or older will give me a chance.
Adults compliment me on my "good use of grammar." No sh*t I have a good command over the English language; I'm twenty years old and am extremely well read. I was reading at university level when I was in fourth grade. Of course I have control over words.
People tell me that I should enjoy it or that it's a blessing. Well it's not. These people telling me that I should enjoy it are the ones who look their age or older and never had to deal with the embarrassment or ridicule you get when people make assumptions of your age because of your height, and build.
I bet any one of you would be horribly insulted if you were going to a fancy dinner with friends or a rated are movie and you were the only one who was pulled aside and had their I.D. double checked to make sure it was real, or drilled with questions about your childhood to make sure you were really born when you said you were.
It's down right humiliating when someone dumbs down their speech to talk to you because they think you're too young to understand or when some idiot 14 year old boy starts hitting on you.
It doesn't help that I'm 5'4, 110 lbs with a small bust and a banana shape. I can't fit into the clothes my friends wear. I have to shop in the children's/junior's sections at stores because they don't carry my size in the adult section.
This of course leads to me not being able to dress like my age.
Just today I took a message for my mother on the phone and when my mother met with the lady who called, the lady said, "I just want you to know how well your daughter sounds on the phone. So grown up."
Of course I sounded grown up, bitch. I'm an adult for Christ's sake.
People say I'll appreciate this when I'm older, 30 or 40 and look like I'm 25. Thanks, but that does nothing to help me now. I want to date someone my own age. I want to be respected like the adult that I am. I want not to be treated as an insubordinate child. I want to be genuinely respected and listened to.
But if you look like I do, that will never happen. I wear make up and do my hair but my small frame and figure just makes me look like a 12 year old trying to be a "big girl."
Sometimes I just feel like I may as well off myself because really, if you can't be respected in this world, what good is life?
Sorry for my rant...any tips on how to make people know I'm older than I look? I don't act immature. And I hate above anything else hearing, "Are you in 8th or 9th grade this fall?" I'm a sophomore in college...
So...how to look older? Pictures on my profile...tear me apart. Make me look 20, please!
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lol, I have the same problem I'm 34 and I am still been mistaken for a 17 year old hahahaha.
When I go to the US it's a nightmare, I can't go to the Sizzler and have the waiter bring me a beer because they are asking where my parents are lmao. I usually always walk with my passport when I visit the US or another country and have become accustomed being asked my ID everywhere I go, because of my boyish good looks.
What I usually do now when I go abroad is grow out my mustache and a stubble, for some reason most people associate facial hair with being older it's weird. I don't really like it and often just shave it off and it's the same song all over again.
I remember this one time I went out to disney's pleasure island and the security personnel checking the tickets wanted to call the police on me and report me as a freaking run away hahaha, I had forgotten my passport in the car and it resulted them not believing me and I really got so pissed that a made a total scene. Their supervising manager came and he agreed that someone would accompany me to my car to get my ID. They finally saw and believed that I was 30 and gave me and my wife free passes and excuses. Yes, my wife also looked young hahaha.
I guess you growing facial hair is out of the question, so what I can only advise is to accept the fact you will look young and good for a great portion of your life. Just remember to walk with your identification.
And don't be scared to demand respect when it is needed.1