I left my ex about two months ago. He had a bit of a temper which caused a lot of unnecessary arguments. He'd get cranky over nothing, I'd had enough of it, so I left.
After a brief period of no contact lasting about two weeks, he got back in touch with me. He's been charming, the boy I know when the temper is away.
Fast forward to now. He called me to ask about some casual stuff. After talking for a while he started telling me how he stumbled across a photo of us and how he missed me. Suddenly, he got really sincere and started stumbling over his words telling me how much he missed me and no one got him like I did. Sounded like he was going to cry and was nervous. He then started telling me about how he had been angry, and leading into talking about his temper. I stopped him and told him we should talk about it in person.
So, we're going to meet up soon. I'm hesitant. I love him, but will not be treated poorly every time he throws a tantrum. So, what are your opinions on this? Thanks guys!
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perfectly fine to meet him just don't get swept up in the emotions he expressed. consider them but don't be blinded by the reality. it's a good sign that he loves you so dearly (it seems clear that he does) but the fact is he has a temper and until he learns to manage it simply loving you won't make things work.
if the temper is something that recurred frequently in your relationship, which it sounds like you did, I'd want him to address that issue, figure otu a way to work on it and then if I decided to get back together with I'd be very conscientious about it.
People can change, and love can be a great motivator but they have to accept their problem first and then be committed whole heartedly to trying to fix the problem.0