I don't really get the theory because if you're not looking how do you meet or find someone?
I keep on meeting guys with no future and I'm fed up tbh, would like to meet a really nice guy but don't know where to look if at all?
Advice on this please?
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No, it's nonsense. However the adage does have a different bend if you understand it. What is really is saying is that by actively hunting people rather than passively being open to them you will run into people don't want. How to explain this...
Okay, here's your life, you work at somewhere and you enjoy your job and you have a decent social life with people about your level. You maintain this group and eventually someone will join that meshes with you and voila, "The One".
The alt version of your life is you work somewhere, enjoy it, but instead of hanging out with people who are on your level, hunt, and hunt some more, hoping to find someone on your level, and you miss them every time because you're looking at elements that you can judge quickly versus being in a group and then evolving into that relationship.
Oh how dull my explanation is. And long.1