Dont get me wrong, its a good idea to make yourself look your best, but I notice girls will shift the majority of their focus on that instead of being a fun outgoing person. Girls in clubs will sit there and wait all night for someone to talk to them instead of just making some light convo about nothing (so they wouldn't risk being "rejected" or whatever the f*** that means).
The obsession over small things in appearance makes them extremely boring people to talk to in my experience. Anyone feel that way?
I've come to terms with the fact that I look 5 years younger than I actually am, and that I'm not all that "hot" or "sexy" to begin with. I don't spend much, if any, time on my appearance because, you know, if the best you can do is look 15 when you're 20, why bother? :p
I depend on my personality and intelligence to get me through life, make friends, and attract guys.
I do know girls who obsess over their looks though. I have a friend who, if we decide to go to the gym, it takes her two hours to get ready. I didn't know one needed to do their hair and makeup to go to the gym lol. I literally use my hands to put my hair in a ponytail and then we go.
You can guess though, I'm not very popular with the male population due to my lack of effort hahaha :p
I only seem to do that when I'm clearly not having a good time..(bored), therefore I just sit/stand there.. not necessarily waiting for someone to come talk to me but it might seem that way.. However, If I'm excited (having fun) to be there I wont' sit there waiting, I go out into the dance floor and dance!
But I know what you mean and yeah! A bunch of girls do that! and then reject the only guys that do bravely go up to them and ask them to dance or something.
Some girls told my cousin they'd dance with him if he'd go home and shave, and change the way he's dressed "hahahahah"! That's so stupid but it's so funny! I never forget that xD it's like WTF? Like he's asking you to marry him? o.0
If me and a friend are at the club I mean we aren't really social unless a guy is genuinely interested. I won't go out of my way but if he comes over to talk I'll talk it isn't a problem. Unless you know how you get some people where it's obvious your personalities don't vibe. It seems more effective and efficient to rely on your brain though.
Girls who don't have anything to offer rely on their looks only. But in my experience, most girls rely on other stuff more. Also, I think it's because there are a lot of guys out there who won't take you seriously unless you're somewhat good-looking or hot. And even then they won't care about your personality, only about the size of your breasts.
A lot of girls rely on their looks, but the girls who actually have boyfriends rely on their personality. Or so I've noticed. The girls with boyfriends I've seen are always bubbly and happy with mediocre looks. So I guess that does the trick.
it depends on the setting you are in, but looks get girls a long way, we all know that. of course a guy will care about her personality once he meets her, but looking good is what will make him want to talk to her first because he can't SEE her personality but he can see how she looks and he either likes it or not. we are all stimulated by looks, men even more than women.
and let's face it, men will do a lot for a hot girl. even if it's something small like letting her cut the line or opening the door or whatever. I'm blond with big boobs and a reasonably pretty face and men do favors for me that I don't even ask for. I know that one day when I get old no one will give me a second glance unless I was lucky to find someone who loves me.
I wouldn't if guys cared about personality. Actually that's why I stopped dating. They don't.
Depends on what she's looking for. If its sex, she doesn't need much to get laid. But if its a relationship, possibly because most guys seem to care about looks anyway. But if its marriage, no. She tries to rely to on other stuff too.
I think younger girls do (early 20's)...for the most part. When I interact with girls that are really attractive and really young I find them kinda boring. They rarely have anything interesting to say or have any depth to them. Maybe they don't think they need to be interesting...who knows. The argument can be made for most people that age though.
Some girls do, some girls don't. I get girls that approach me regularly, so of which definitely have depth to them. I do agree that there are a lot of boring girls out there though, who seem to think their looks are the only thing that matter. I guess you just have to be more selective with the girls you're willing to go after.
yeah because they know they have nothing else to offer. They are rarely fun to talk and almost never funny
Yes they do and social media isn't helping either. From Facebook to Twitter to Instagram the emphasis on words and intellect is decreasing and the emphasis on image is increasing. I know many girls with okay personalities who rely on their looks to get their guys. Also as much as these girls are doing this a lot of guys are accepting this and aren't challenging girls to bring more