Kinda, but a good personality makes a massive difference. I know it sounds cliche, but there has been so many times where a mate has shown a picture of a guy or girl who I consider average, and they think are absolute babes, and then once I meet that person it's like "okay, I get it." Personality can make someone 100x more attractive.
Everyone at some point in their lives has had a celeb crush, Of course I like attractive men, but what I really want is an average man that I can love for who he is and a guy who doesn't have other women constantly traipsing after him. I despise guys who look good and know they look good and use it to manipulate people. Personality is foremost, looks fade but personality stays forever.
I think we are. Average is just ...so... Common. We say that we want someone who we are attracted to but most of the time that person is better than us in every way. Looks, personality, finances, job etc. Honestly I believe that one of the biggest reasons why people are single is because they have stopped being attracted to their "equal" and when they end up with their "equal" they feel like they got the short straw when in reality they got at least the minimum they should be aiming for
I think that people who sit at home and don't go out much and just use p*rn or look at people online end up with a distorted idea of average. Many of us know shy virgins who seem uninterested in any partner who isn't an 8+.
I think that people who actually get out and live in the real world, well, are attracted to attractive people, and open to finding average looking people desirable in the right context.
Even fat women have loads of options so men are not in the slightest disensitised to average or even below average women. Here's an example of how many messages men and women got on online dating with various different pictures but the same profile link Notice how the average woman got more messages than all the men combined, no way are men desensitised to average women.
Women aren't desensitised to average looking men either, they never wanted them in the first place. In most mammal species the vast majority of the males do not mate, in nature this would be no different for humans. Women find the vast majority of men ugly. They only put up with them in previous generations because of religious beliefs about monogamy and their economic dependence on males.
I guess in a way, yeah. A lot of people these days are shooting for the best they can get, and they often overlook other qualities. But I do see a lot of average guys with average girls. I've never really had problems with women myself as I'm fairly realistic in my expectations