if we aren't dating or anything close I wouldn't be butt hurt, id be slightly jealous as anyone would
if we were dating I wouldn't mind looking as long as he didn't stare hard the entire time we walked past or made comments about her and suggestions to me to make me look more like her like oh you should dye your hair like that or you should dress in those kinda clothes
Honestly, I'd be a bit bummed out about it. But if we're not together, it's not like anything can be done about it. I'd try and tell myself that I shouldn't be upset about it but if it's someone you like, it's kind of hard not to be upset.
I went through a similar situation with my boyfriend. He would always tell me about his celebrity crushes and how hot they were. At first it bothered me because I knew I could never look like any of those girls but I realized that it was a bit silly and that I have my celebrity crushes as well (Though I don't go blabbing about how attractive they are lol). I don't pay much attention to it now.
However I would have only myself to blame because I wasn't so upfront with my flirting towards him which is why his attention is diverted to other girls. People have mutliple crushes and "backup people" so watever. Yeah I agree, there is no harm in looking.
I like the guy, but we're not together? It probably wouldn't upset me. Honestly, even happily married guys look at women- I've actually pointed out good-looking girls to guys I was dating, saying something like "Holy crap, she is GORGEOUS!"...The way I see it, checking out other girls isn't necessarily a sign he doesn't share my feelings. If he's flirting with them and being distant with me then that's another story.
Does it make me want him more or less?
Kind of depends- if he's a huge flirt with everyone and gives off the vibe of being a player, it makes me want him less. I have no desire to be one of the many women in a guy's life...
If he's just looking, being a single guy, it doesn't change anything, I'd still like him as much as I did before.
it's basic etiquette really, just like it's bad form not to look at someone when they're talking to you because it gives the impression you aren't listening or don't care...likewise when you oggle other girls when you're with your Girlfriend it makes us feel like you don't really want to be there or don't care.
how can you NOT understand how this could bother someone?