I'm so tired of being an ugly duckling, what can I do to become a swan? On a scale from 1-10 I'm like a 4. Is there anyway I can go from 4 to an 8?
I would post my picture but it's too embarrassing, so I'll try to describe to the best of my ability.
Style: Very plain and conservative, half of my clothes are 3-5 years old (some are even older). I do own some more fashion forward clothes that I rarely wear but I don't think I look good or comfortable in them. The vast majority of my clothes are t-shirts and jeans and my two favorite shirts have Hello Kitty on them but I'm too old for Hello Kitty and I should be wearing more sophisticated clothing
The shoes I have are adidas and they're pretty new (less than a year old) so I guess those are more fashion forward. I don't wear any accessories (my ears aren't even pierced).
Makeup: I actually just started wearing powder foundation but I don't really like it. It comes off on everything and it makes me sneeze. I have a weird skin color and I've bought three powder foundations and none of them match. Maybe I'm not applying it correctly? Occasionally I'll wear lip gloss but most of the time it's chapstick.
Hygiene: Hygiene is pretty good, but I don't wash my hair everyday because I know if I washed it everyday it would dry up and disappear, but I hear that guys are grossed out if a girl doesn't wash her hair everyday. I try to take really good care of my skin but it seems so ugly! I have large pores, splotchy areas, dark circles around my eyes, and there's always 5-10 pimples on my face at any given time.
Hair: I'm very lazy when it comes to my hair because it takes 2 hours to straighten. It's has quite a bit of damage on the ends from having to straighten it so I just put my hair into a ponytail everyday because there's nothing else that can be done to it.
I'm get zero attention from guys, and I know it's 100% because of my looks because I'm the nicest person ever.
I do try to get advice from my friends but they just tell me to wear bright colors and tell me that I shouldn't worry so much about what guys think about my appearance and that it's what's on the inside that counts, but that really doesn't help me.
Will someone take me under their wing and tell me everything that I should do? I don't expect to be one of those girls that get approached by guys everyday but if I could attract just one guy I would feel a lot better.
Any tips and advice would be greatly appreciated.
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No bullsh*t what so ever, I glanced over the whole thread to see how big it was and literally spotted this sentence: "I'm get zero attention from guys, and I know it's 100% becuase of my looks because I'm the nicest person ever. "
I'm the NICEST person ever -- have you ever heard the expression the nice one finishes last?
It may be true, but sometimes women have it easier - so lets get to work!
Clothes 3-5 years old - That's great that they still fit, but those clothes are OLD ;; they may be color faded / out of fashion etc... Take them to your local second hand store and donate them - be sure to get a receipt for what they would have been worth, this is a tax write-off for you or your parents ^_^ ;; After you have most the clothes gone, take your paycheck or some allowance from friends or family and go shopping - brings some friends with you or ask the associate to assist you (Its hard not to be shy, but they ARE there to help ^_^) Let it clearly be known you will go out of your comfort zone if you are doing it right... You could stay in your comfort zone, but were making a change remember?
Hygene - Chica (girl) chica, chica... Wash that hair EVERY day, conditioner is a must ^_^ healthy hair isn't just for looks, it helps you from not losing your hair when your older! - As for the splotchy areas / pores / pimples - invest in Pro-Active, I used to be a model and it helped ALOTTTTTT... Be sure to stick to a schedule to force yourself to use the product, otherwise - it doesn't work (It will get worse before it gets better) -- As far as the dark circles - Get more rest, don't rub your eyes when you cry, and also use your ring finger to apply makeup -- any other finger will cause too much pressure and end up bruising the veins in your eye lids.
Also, a side note on the clothing - and I'm not trying to be rude -- sometimes these "hello kitty" shirts work out great, most times.. not so much... I would strongly recommend you try changing to shirts that have a design with a small logo or maybe some well known companies larger logos such as Abercrombie and Fitch, Hollister, American Eagle... etc
You can find some clothes that resemble the same style for cheaper at a local Ross or "wholesale" market
Good luck and I hope that helped, if I can provide more assistance let me know~
P.s. I'm giving you advice that I learned from trained professionals at IMD (Image Modeling Development) which is internationally known for their Models.3