My specialist thinks I have a degree of Asperger's Syndrome and if I'm honest it worries me that I don't fit the public perception, i.e; someone in eccentric dress who excels at maths, doesn't smile very much and likes trainspotting. As an artistic woman who enjoys theatre and fashion and can't add up to save her life I feel people will probably just laugh at the idea. I struggle enormously with obsessions, black and white thinking, inability to prioritise, making friends, the vast majority of food textures and colors and the day someone catches me flapping my arms around will be very embarrassing. :( These are generally things that people don't see and I can be a fairly convincing social mimic. Are there any other women out there struggling with their identity as an aspie?
I have a friend who has Asperger's. She does come off as a little odd and standoffish. But she still has friends, a boyfriend, and even a two year old daughter. She's pretty functional as an adult. People aren't paying as much attention to your quirks as you think they are. And people who know you're autistic will be fairly understanding. I don't judge my friend for her autism. Anything I find out of the ordinary about her, I just kind of shrug off. As does her family, friends, and her boyfriend.
Why does it worry you that you don't fit the public perception? Do you really want to stereotyped? Do you want to be perceived as a robotic, socially awkward nerd incapable of empathy and any kind of meaningful relationship? Public perceptions are often harsh, simple-minded and judgemental. Isn't a good thing if people see you as an individual rather than a label?