Oftentimes feminists complain about so called " slut shaming . 'But there is the other side to this story - while women are criticized for their sexual exploits , men are being put down for lack of them, Women call them names like a " looser " or a " virgin " used as an insult. I think it's unfair because being unable to attract women in western democratic countries boils down to lacking in looks department. So if you fail with women due to low physical attractiveness it's not your fault and you should not be blamed for something that was ultimately beyond your control. What do you guys think ?
ps, I was inspired to ask this question by reading responses to a different question about American men seeking women abroad .And some women called them with contempt as " undesirables " .i think people need more empathy to understand that some people ( men) have been given raw deal with their shi...y genetics and they just try to make the best of bad situation . if you don't hold all the cards you are left with what they deal you .
All unattractive people are stigmatized by the opposite sex. Men call ugly women names, women call ugly men names. I don't really see women dissing guys for being virgins though. We might say that an ugly guy gets no pussy, but we won't make fun of a guy who is a virgin by choice.
I think the stigma that men aren't attractive to women comes more from men themselves than women, because I don't know maybe they can't relate.
It's also rare to hear a woman make fun of guy because he is still a virgin, while I've heard quite a few guys "joking" about it. I don't know if yo guys like that kind of tough love though?
You shouldn't be blamed for the way you look. But everyone can find a match. It's not that you can't get any woman, but you know if you're no Tom Brady, you can't expect a Giselle Bundchen to fall for you
About men going to other countries to find women, well that's a whole different topic. I think that a lot of people see it as taking advantage of people who aren't doing so well. I think it's wrong. I mean my best friend is from thailand and married to an American, but they're the same age bracket, both attractive and having jobs. Nothing wrong with that, but when it's 50 or 60 year old guys dating girls that are barley legal, come on...
not true I think ugly men are sexy, they just don't look good in your pics and your love story or with your friends but it doesn't mean we are not sexually attracted to them, in fact we can like all kind of men as long as he is the right one for us, if you don't have sex maybe you need to be more patient, we don't like to be rushed
First of all, men are the ones who shame men for being virgins. Women aren't impressed by guys who talk about how they, "banged a bunch of chicks." Believe it or not, women aren't drawn to the idea of being just a number to a guy.
Secondly, if you're really complaining about how men have to deal with being stigmatized based on their level of attractiveness, you need to sit the fuck down because women have to deal with that ten times more than you have to.
Look, ignore things feminists say because they honestly never make any sense anyway. Feminists can complain about men being unattractive one day, then call all men rapists the next day, then tell us we're all walking dildos the next. They are feminists. They don't matter. Who the hell cares what a feminist has to say?
But honestly, I would be far more likely to see a guy criticize another guy for not getting laid over a woman criticizing a guy for not getting laid. The only thing I can see a girl taking concern for a guy being a virgin is for his lack of ability to perform in bed.
Because a dating website shows that women rated 80% of guys as unattractive. Not even average but unattractive. So like the other 15% would he average, the other 4 % is above average and the last one percent is hot. And you can ask most women on here and many say they only find a couple percent of guys hot
In our society it feels like looks are everything ( besides money) and I can speak from experience I'm 6'4 now but in High School I pretty much had all my weight 190 lbs but not my height lol and I got treated like a piece of shit, not even like a human being I'm talking no friends, people moving away if I sat down next to them in class people yelling / spitting at me in the hallway.
Today I'm 6'4, athletic build peopel say I look good and women like me and people want to be with me but since I've been on the other side most of my life I know how fake and superficial it all is and this leads to me only having had one girlfriend. When I bring this up after being asked by girls their interest in me usually plumets. I figure it's like in econ, a high demand creates a higher price level and therefore a higher attractiveness.