For some reason I can't have a boyfriend all I ever end up doing is just having friends with benefits, if anything. But when I was 16 I was raped do any of you think that's the reason, I think I'm over the issue and I put it behind me but I don't know what it is that makes me not want to date a guy I constantly think about it and I feel bad for myself which I hate I am not that type of person I usually just put things behind me. So I don't understand what's the issue behind this please help! Thanks
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First off, I'm truly very sorry that you were raped. That is something that no one should should ever go through. And being young, during a time when you're trying to figure out so much in the world, makes it truly a crime. But being raped is definitely the problem. It is a statistical fact that girls that are sexually abused when they're younger have a higher risk of being more sexually active. I can't even begin to understand what is going on in your brain, or how you view guys, but don't think that being sexually active with no boyfriend is normal. You need to reprogram your brain. I don't know if you need professional help, or if you can do it without. You need to realize that what happened first off isn't right at all. And secondly, none of it was your fault!
But if I were you, I would stop having sex all together, including everything associated with. If you meet a guy you like, don't immediately "date" him. Get to know him, who he is, and what he stands for. And if think about dating, let him know that you aren't going to do anything sexual until marriage. If the guy is not ok with that, then forget him. You want a guy that likes you for WHO you are, not WHAT you have (ie your body). But instead of looking for guys for sex, start looking for someone that is marriage material. If your parents are still together, look for someone like your dad. If not, find someone that you know, and look for characteristics like that.
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