Hey I am 21 years old and I'm going to graduate soon at my university! :) I think I'm ready to settle down and all. I want to get married to a good Muslim man, I don't care what his race is as long as he's a good pious Muslim :'). But my traditional Pakistani parents want to get me an arranged marriage to a Pakistani guy in a few years. They have talked about it to me. But I want to find someone on my own & I plan to tell them that once I find someone. Ill only get an arranged marriage if I don't find someone. It's my plan B. It's getting pretty difficult to do as no one is approaching me at my University. The Muslim guys there are very sweet and say Salam to me but aren't willing to get to know me. I'm starting to think an arranged marriage is a good idea since I'm not getting approached.
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no dont think that way. I dont think they are intimidated. Maybe they just have other things on their mind and are not ready to date at the moment. Guys in college hardly ever think about hurrying up and getting married at age 21. They are usually thinking about finishing school, getting a career, getting their life in order and having fun on the side by going out with their friends or traveling to new places.
One thing you must know about men is, men can never be ready to settle down with a woman if he is not where he wants to be in his life at the moment. a lot of men want to get themselves financially stable first. They want to have a plan for how they are going to be able to take care of their future wife and children. And many men who are age 21 are struggling just getting through college.
you should think about just enjoying your life right now and give the men some more time to get their lives in order0