Giving guys money?

I wonder when is it ok for guys to ask a girl for money? and at what point should a girl worry about being used? Times are hard right now and everybody needs help. I just broke up with this guy because he asked me for gas money two weeks in a row. He says he wasn't trying to use but that they cut hours and he just needs help right now. I don't know if I believed that since I paid for dinner and he tells me he doesn't have time for a girlfriend.


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  • Ok, well I had a friend a while back who would ask girls for money no problem, he wasn't good at holding down a job as quick as he didn't get along with someone he quit... He just got out of jail and now his "girlfriend" is going to put him on her CELL PHONE PLAN... He's done this before and has very little intention of ever paying back.

    Now, your situation... This guy quite possibly could be a user. It's fairly likely it is... many people say oh they cut my hours blah blah but even though things are tight and we're in a recession there are still plenty of places hiring! Coulda, shoulda, would have whatever... If you were going out with him for a while and you know he's usually good about money eventually relationships become a compromise so sometimes maybe you'll buy dinner and sometimes he'll buy etc. If you go on a long road trip maybe you fill one tank and he'll fill the other... The key word is a compromise... if you're giving all the money then its not a compromise...

    It's likely you did the right thing by breakin it off with this guy... especially if you guys are newly in a relationship because you won't know what his spending habits are, or even if that money is going to gas...

    Traditionally guys buy dinner and pay pretty much for most things in a relationship, at least for the start. obviously times have changed and are still changing so its up to you to know how much you're willing to give. generally 50% from each party is the norm... since it seems like you've been giving 100% you may wanna reconsider this guy

    Hope this helps!

    Good Luck